Thank you very much for posting this essay! What a gem! Mary Ann was a friend to me several years ago, when I was just beginning my journey out of Mormonism. She was so wise, and a good mentor. I lost touch with her years ago, but would love to see her again someday. If anyone knows how Mary Ann is doing, or has contact information for her, please PM me. You can tell Mary Ann that
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Marry a returned missionary in the temple and you will have happiness in this life and eternal joy in the world to come.
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One of my "active" LDS siblings, a member of "the" church is trying to silence my voice, as I advocate for my dying mother. Mother's life is slowly fading, and this sibling is resorting to all sorts of childish tactics to try and silence my voice. I have searched the internet with no luck, trying to find the quote... Anyway, if anyone can assist me, that would be grea
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Montana W. I love your writing style. People who think well, write well, and I can tell you are very bright. You have shared several good insights. And I feel you are making a wise choice to let go of the relationship with your boyfriend, rather than try to force a round peg into a square hole. You sound like a well-rounded person. Figuratively speaking, you are round, and should
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Recovery Board : RfM Recovery from Mormonism (RfM) discussion forum. Go to Topic: Previous•Next Go to: Forum List•Message List•New Topic•Search•Log In Posted by: anoninidaho ( ) Date: August 16, 2016 01:57AM the dream of a happy temple marriage: I had to let it go I feel kind of isolated sometimes, here in this little microcosm of Mormonism, in a highly LDS t
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Marilee, I am so sorry to read your story. I feel sad that you still carry a burden of not protecting your children more. I was not always able to protect my kids, even though I tried my best. There were times that my Ex-husband would roar at my kids like a Lion. These angry outbursts were unpredicable, and at times uncontrollable. I was unable to protect my children from sudden, a
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Tevai, Thank you for sharing this information! This is the type of information that Young Women's teachers should be teaching the girls. My Ex-husband only tried to choke me once. I will never forget waking up with him forcing a surgical glove into my mouth, and shoving it down my throat. I felt his fingers around my throat, tightening down menacingly. He was also wearing a pair of
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Hie, Thank you for your kind words. I am so grateful to know that I have found a community that is willing to share my pain, and offer me encouragement along my journey. I am a long time lurker, but haven't ever made a lot of posts of my own. I am a very visual person, and, believe it or not, the photo you created for me will be something I will treasure for the rest of my life. The pic
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Hi, Hie to Kolob, I don't even know how to say thank you for a gift so sacred. I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face, and dripping off my chin. Once again, a good cleansing cry. A healing cry. The image you created is exactly as I visualized it. And symbolizes perfectly my loss and pain. The stormy sky, the famous SLC temple, the young and naive couple... And tha
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Breeze, Oh. My. God. I am so sorry. I am so glad you had the courage to get out from under the hands of your abuser after 14 months. It sounds like your Returned Missionary was even more abusive than mine. may you continue on your path of healing, following that horrific experience. You deserve better. ~~ anon in Idaho
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Summer, You are right. Happiness was my birthright all along. The Mormon Church used my vulnerability, and my sincere desire simply be loved, to manipulate me into thinking that a Temple Marriage was the only way to happiness, and the only way to heaven. What a crock. Thank you for your insight. anon in I-da-ho
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To MexMom, and all of the others who responded so kindly to my wall of text, my sincere thanks. In a way, I just wanted to post my story as a way to find closure to the divorce, and to vent to those who could possibly understand the loss of not only my marraige, but of my dreams of a happily ever after Temple Marriage. The kind words, encouragement, and sage advice shared by each of you wh
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Shummy, I miss you my friend. I spent a great deal of time today, examining my own soul. I suppose you could say I had a medical and mental check up with myself. I spent a lot of time today, just thinking. Said my last goodbyes to the grief of the loss of my faith and my marriage. I just want to say thank you to you once again. You were a friend to me in the darkest hours of my
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I feel kind of isolated sometimes, here in this little microcosm of Mormonism, in a highly LDS town, in the white bread basket of I-da-ho. One of my lifelines to sanity after happily exiting "the" church has been my habit of listening to an Ex-Mo podcast every night for my storytime while I am falling asleep. John Dehlin's Mormon Stories have been like manna from heaven for me.
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elderolddog, Many thanks, my friend, for spelling all of this out for me. You have given me much food for thought. I will look into using this approach. With appreciation, anon in Idaho
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MCR, Thanks very much! Last time around, when the divorce went down, I felt like no one "had my back." At least this time around, I have some options! Thanks again for all of your input. I will follow through. anon in Idaho
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MCR, The decree was signed in 2006. So it was several years ago. The original decree was not in Utah, but in another state in the Morridor. However, my ex-husband moved to Utah shortly after the divorce was final, to pursue his new life with his new wife. As mentined in my previous post, my Ex-husband was given full custody of the kids, and I had supervised visitation arrangements outl
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imaworkinonit, Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. Yup. Pretty ironic that my abusive ex-husband was not required to have supervised visits, and I was. I have e-mails in which my ex-husband admits to neglecting both myself and our children. I also have a copy of a letter my ex-husband wrote to a former counselor of mine in which he admits to abusing both myself and our child
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When I told my TBM husband regarding my research about the church, and that I no longer believed Joseph's Myth, he gave me an ultimatum. If I left the church he would divorce me, use my mental health records in court against me to get custody of the kids, and then do everything in his power to make it as difficult as he could for me to see the children. He has made good on his threat. The di
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