If my bishop asked me if I keep the Word of Wisdom, I would say no. Not because I drink tea, but because I don't feel like I take care of my body that well. I eat way too much sugar, I rarely exercise, I never get adequate sleep, I have a serious binge-eating problem, etc. But, if I didn't drink tea and only listed those reasons, I bet I could still get a Temple recommend. And so could so
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I first got in contact with my birth mom a few years ago. We emailed for a while. Met her once, but she didn't take it well. She still has a lot of regret over the past and is frequently depressed/suicidal. I text her every once in a while to see how she's doing, but I can never truly connect. It's hard to say it, but she feels like just another acquaintance. I feel like I can connect more wi
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I really don't get it. Every time I bring up sincere questions about the Church that are tearing me apart, I'm dismissed as being prideful, selfish, and unfeeling (?) even though that isn't even my intention. The latest conversation went something like this: ME: "I'm a spiritual person, but I don't believe in the institution. It doesn't make me happy and I think it's bogged down by bu
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I tried to tell my mom that I was having doubts, and she basically called me lazy, prideful, and selfish. Which is amazing considering I barely have the willpower to get out of bed most days and I have amazingly low self-esteem. But, yeah, I'm prideful and arrogant for sincerely wanting to find out the truth.
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Tiaan Jerrjerrod Bail Organa Wilhuff Tarkin Sheev Palpatine Bib Fortuna Plo Koon Finis Valorum Cham Syndulla Wedge Antilles Kit Fisto Mas Amedda Dang it. I hate admitting that I know these off the top of my head. Yeah, I see you, OP. I saw someone named "Jedi" once and knew another family who named their kids after Star Trek and Harry Potter characters, so these na
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Hi everyone, I'm getting desperate and would love to hear your advice. I've struggled with depression for a while, but over the past couple of years, I've noticed some weird mood swings on top of it. One week I'll feel energetic and confident, then the next I'm back to feeling sluggish and sad. I'm in a down week and I can't seem to stop buying things on eBay and other online stores. It's
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I did and I really liked it. These movies never fail to impress me. I loved Kai. Great villain.
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I've always been curious about what it's like to work for the Church. Do they pay well? Do employees get decent benefits? What about the gender wage gap?
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Haha! That would make it interesting. Apparently there's a new one and my aunt and a lot of them didn't like it. There's some stuff that really needs to stay at home or Church. Their internal filters were broken. It's like starting a loud conversation about alien abductions or how you think your neighbor is a witch.
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I went along on a family outing to an Italian restaurant with my immediate and extended family and WOW. It got awkward. My aunt is the most wacky TBM I've ever known and she's HARDCORE about Church doctrine. And my grandparents don't quite understand appropriate public behavior. They started talking about the new temple video and the conversation turned to Satan. And they were so loud. The
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Home teaching or visiting teaching? Any positive experiences? I feel guilty when I rant about it because there are some lonely people in my ward, but there are better ways to bond with people. I'd rather call someone up and go to dinner, bowling, sporting events, movies, etc. Or even just saying, "hey, do you want to come over and marathon the Star Wars movies or play video games/tabl
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Watching harmless PG 13 movies. (My parents were amazingly prude). I got in trouble for watching some of the most tame PG 13 movies like Pirates of the Caribbean and Star Wars: Revenge of the Sith. I got a "For the Strength of Youth" lecture when I watched them. Looking back....it all seems really silly.
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My parents said we were going to be so blessed when we sent out our missionary! So far, we've had nothing but financial problems, job loss, relationship breakups, sickness, stress, and anger. Really great. I'm glad our already struggling family has to be torn apart AGAIN just because my parents wanted to force my brother to go on a useless mission. Especially when all he did was mess around,
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I keep seeing people in Star Wars ties (along with superhero, space-themed, and other pop culture stuff). So, I think one day I'm going to show up in dress pants and a Kylo Ren t-shirt and see what happens. I just think it's funny how people at Church act like there's a strict dress code and say that we need to dress modestly and reverently, then feel morally fine accessorizing with pop cultu
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What is it about Mormonism that makes it so boring and repetitive? I've been to a Reform synagogue and a Baptist church and they were both REALLY fun and dynamic. In fact, I don't even think Mormonism was always this boring. My parents used to do a lot of fun stuff in church when they were growing up. Music in sacrament meetings, Ward plays, etc. Now everyone is so joyless. I wonder what happ
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I need to rant for a minute... I think Church is torture. It's boring, repetitive, pointless, and a waste of time, but every time I try to say so, it's always MY fault. I'm not trying to get enough out of the lesson, I'm refusing the feel the Spirit, etc. But, I was thinking about it...and yeah, I guess it IS me, but only because I don't learn well by sitting in one place and being lectured
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WHAT? He seriously got mad at you for offering coffee? I'm not usually a confrontational person, but this is a situation where if I was another customer, I might've said something to him. That's just uncalled for and rude.
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I've made so many mistakes with my education that I'm pretty much out of options. I'm currently doing an English literature major, but I realized that I only did it to please family members and impress people. My true passion is with physics, chemistry, astronomy, and geology and I'm thinking about switching majors (again) and just doing what I've wanted to do since I was in elementary school
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I'm REALLY sorry to hear this. I hope you're doing okay. My mom acts very similar, so I feel your frustration. The first time I told her about my depression, she literally told me to get my head out of whatever books I was reading and start taking the Gospel seriously. Do you have another family member who is more willing to listen?
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Definitely not one. One-child families seem to feel the full force of the Ward gossip and unsolicited advice. My bro has one kid who's turning eight years old soon (they're very unlikely to have any more at this point) and people actually look down on them for that. It's a smart idea for them, though. They're already low income and think it's more important to provide their kid with a dec
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I forgot to share this yesterday. I was in Sunday School and someone brought up "fence sitters" and this lady got really nasty about it. She said something along the lines of "the fence sitters already chose their side. The Lord even says if you're not fighting for him, you're against him. Being neutral isn't fighting for our cause, so they're against him. They're our enemies."
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Hi! I'm sorry to restart such an old thread, but I just wanted to check in and say that things have gotten better. I've decided to study other religious practices like Buddhism and try to create my own spirituality that doesn't involve blindly following the Church leaders. I'm also looking into Mormons Building Bridges. The hate seems to have died down at my Ward a little bit, but it still hu
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I know an awesome family who are a blend of Methodists, Baptists, and Catholics. They're pretty laid back about their religion, but if one of the teenagers decided to start attending the Catholic church instead of the Baptist one, no one would care. They all kind of have an "if you believe in Jesus, who cares what religion you are? It's all good" attitude. Why can't this be the same
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Correct me if I'm getting any of this info wrong... From what I understand, religiosity is part of the Honor Code. One of the requirements is to "participate regularly in church services." It also says that "excommunication, disfellowshipment, or disaffiliation from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints automatically results in the loss of good Honor Code standing.
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That's so disheartening. It's like none of them are even true friends, even though we've known each other for years and years. Some Ward family.
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I'm really bad at reading people, but I've always struggled with really nosy Ward members and as a result, I've become pretty cold, detached and borderline hostile to people at Church. In the past, when I shared my deep feelings and struggles with them, they turned it around and completely betrayed my trust. But, sometimes the nosiness isn't that serious. For instance, today this lady asked m
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I usually go, but not until like 12pm on Friday. And even then, I just walk into one or two stores and casually look around at the deals. It was dead quiet in there last year. Very nice to avoid the crowds. I can't stand all the insanity and I HATE how the stores open on Thursday night at like 5pm now. So ridiculous.
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Yep. In Gospel Doctrine class, the teacher and other people spent like ten minutes bashing everyone who opposed the new policy. Today's lesson was on the "deceiving things in the world" so these people had a party with it. I wanted to stand up and start yelling at them, it was so ridiculous and judge mental. Someone even said "one of my family members is gay, but that doesn't make
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Thank you for your responses, everyone! You guys are amazing. I'm so glad there's an active community of people like this. You're the one source of sanity in my life.
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A while ago, I was talking to different religious groups in SLC. Would I need to go through the whole resignation process if I wanted to join a Reform synagogue, Buddhist temple, or Community of Christ,etc? I'm trying to do this without everyone finding out or being harassed by the Church.
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