My heart goes out to you as I hear of the trauma you experienced. Sometimes things happen that can overwhelm our ability accept and digest, leaving a deep mental scar. Have you heard this song? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDTph7mer3I Society is so inept at knowing who should be in prison and for how long. The following is from http://www.alternet.org/drugs/tragedy-whitney-houston-and-her-
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One individual in the prison class yesterday was able to elegantly express a deep sadness that he has been able to get in touch with over the weeks of the class through the journaling I have them do. I told him how good it was to be able to contact this sadness and that if he could hold the feeling with lots of love and compassion (not repress the feeling!) than a healing process could began to o
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I teach weekly psychology classes as a volunteer at a max security prison here in Alabama. Prisoners yearn for freedom. I tell them that internal freedom trumps freedom from prison. My prison class members and my college student class members are much the same – lost in identification with their thoughts and perceptions – both believing they need something more to be at peace with the moment.
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I’ve been thinking about similarities between populist leaders Joseph Smith, Trump, Putin, and Kim Jong-un. ‘Truth’ for these individuals is/was just a tool to stroke their egos, justify or hide their actions, and get what they wanted. Joseph Smith would send men on missions and then marry their wife’s for example, as the Mormon church has been forced to document on their own website. Tru
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The 15 should watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Khn_z9FPmU
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http://www.wimp.com/teenpoem/ http://www.wimp.com/messagedepressed/ http://www.wimp.com/depressedbrain/
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As long as you can tap into a feeling of mystery and beauty, and not think that your logic encompasses reality, then you are doing well from my point of view.
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It is better to never find your keys than to be as good as dead by being blind to the mysterious. “The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science. He to whom the emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand wrapped in awe, is as good as dead —his eyes are closed. The insight into the mystery of life, coupled
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He can't help with the lost key but he can most definitely help if you have lost your sense of wonder and mystery of the universe.
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Here is a good quote from Forbes: I’ve learned to be nice to myself, because ultimately we’re all doing the best we can with what we’ve got. Rachel Schwartzmann The quote was given prior to opening this article on the subject of this post: http://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2016/12/28/einstein-believed-in-a-theory-of-spacetime-that-can-help-people-cope-with-loss/#7f03148527ec
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NDEs have occurred when there is no measurable brain activity. Some individuals report verifiable events seen out of the body and remote from the body that were not assessable from the body senses. There is a compulsion to fit existence into our existing paradigms, thus avoiding the pain of cognitive dissidence. This is the hallmark of religiosity that is demonstrated by a neurotic drive to exp
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Maslow added a stage after self-actualization called ego transcendence. He also wrote about peak experiences as follows: "Feelings of limitless horizons opening up to the vision, the feeling of being simultaneously more powerful and also more helpless than one ever was before, the feeling of ecstasy and wonder and awe, the loss of placement in time and space with, finally, the conviction t
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Maslow has two states of seeing the reality. 1. Deficiency mode – I need something more to be fulfilled. He said that we generally move from physiological needs, to safety needs, love and belonging needs and then self-esteem need. A person could be stuck on any one of these levels of need, for example looking for love in one person after another. Inherent in being in deficiency mode is the bel
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I look at love as coming in two flavors. 1. Love as a projection of my own unconscious and undeveloped qualities in myself. (see Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs http://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html ) With this ‘deficiency’ love we are driven by neediness to possess these qualities by possessing the person that serves as the screen for our projection. I saw a lady yesterday at a gatherin
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEHQhDigsJo another hit
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zce9m_iZYvY
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My wife’s facebook feed (I mooch off her facebook) came up with a sponsored ad for a free DVD on the life of Gordon B. Hinckley. I made this comment: Seeing the ad for the video on President Hinckley I am reminded of this Rumi poem: * Listen to your essential self, the Friend. When you feel longing, be patient, and also prudent, moderate with eating and drinking. Be like a mountain in t
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When I hear hard convictions that are unassailable despite facts to the contrary I think of a cult that had been given a date for the destruction of the world by aliens. The faithful were to be taken up into the alien’s space craft. The prophecy fails and, as predicted by social scientist, the faithful believed that their faith had saved the world. They became more entrenched in their beliefs.
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Check out the Liberal Redneck on youtube such as https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ov-ocQpQtrw
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Great post. Truth is relatively unimportant to most people. Of those that profess to be lovers of truth often their beliefs are actually more important to them. It is palpable in their defensiveness of their beliefs and deafness to another perspective. If they jump off a belief ship it is right into another package belief system ship. Jumping into the ocean of being, open to reality as it is
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A lot of Americans around Lake Chapala such as the town of Chapala or San Juan Cosala just outside of Guadalajara. I would much rather live in this area than Guadalajara. Also, much better deal there for assisted living than the US if or when you need this.
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Several quotes on how parents can hurt their children: Nothing has a more disturbing influence psychologically on children as the unlived life of the parent. Carl Jung Not having a well-formed sense of self can be terrifying, for it can feel like nonexistence or death. In psychology, this is referred to as narcissism. The word "narcissism" often brings to mind self-centered, self-
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I read an analogy this morning of seeing my thoughts and feelings as being the wind and I am the bird of consciousness that flies freely on these winds. Without a higher consciousness that is free of imprisonment of idenity inside thoughts and feelings we are often our own worst enemy with our mood blown wherever the winds of fate takes our consciousness. Eventually this mind-out-of-control livin
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Agree 100%.
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Hey, many Americans go South for assisted living. Nice setting, nice climate, nice accommodation, other Americans, and about 1/5 the cost. Mexico is calling you.
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Have you experienced resolutions followed by broken resolutions many times? This video explains why this occurred and how to gain control by giving up the fight. It also explains why the Mormon approach control is flawed. http://www.tedxrainier.com/speakers/jonathan-bricker/
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How To Help Every Child (Adult) Fulfill Their Potential * Many Mormons are stuck in a limiting mindset. I see some students in my psychology classes (and exmormons) growing and some stuck – what a difference between a growth and fixed mindset. This video from RSA explains the mindset of being stuck and the mindset of growth. Must watch for parents – a lot of praise is toxic. * http
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Not having a well-formed sense of self can be terrifying, for it can feel like nonexistence or death. In psychology, this is referred to as narcissism. The word "narcissism" often brings to mind self-centered, self-absorbed, or self-aggrandizing, when it really means that a person has a very poorly defined sense of self and self-worth. It often goes along with a deep sense of sadness an
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To finish my question – Is it possible that, when seen from a bigger vantage point, the things that upset us and seem life shattering (Cancer, separation, death of loved one, estrangement from family and …) are no more significant than a child sobbing because they are not being allowed to play with a bag of dog poop or not allowed to eat styrofoam? To paraphrase a quote, “When your heart
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“Dance, when you're broken open. Dance, if you've torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you're perfectly free.” ― Rumi A CHILDREN'S GAME All people on the planet are children, except for a very few. No one is grown up except those free of desire. God said, "The world is a play, a children's game, and y
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