The leaders also told me it was satan telling me I shouldn't marry my gay boyfriend/husband--not my own intuition of course. The story about the engagement ring was rather eye-opening to me. I'm sure most women want an engagement ring, but it shouldn't be such an issue. I TOLD HIM NOT to get me an engagement ring. I thought they were wasted money. I had a really good job--and earned more than
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I especially wanted amos2's story to be NOTED. That so clearly shows how fucked up the sex issues in mormonism are. I was a virgin. My husband was very sexually active gay. We had a great honeymoon. He knew a lot about sex. We actually had pretty good sex. The thing I took note of was how focused the lds leaders were on the sex. If you are a religion who focuses on Christ, spirituality, pr
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finally left her cheating husband after all her kids were raised. He had had 3 affairs on her--one while he was in a bishopric. She forgave him for the first 2. After the 3rd one, she chose to leave. The bishop and SP would not give her a TR because she wouldn't forgive her husband again. She went for years without a TR--though she was "worthy." She moved into a new ward and the
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so how many marriages? Oh my! This sounds worse and worse as time goes by. I can tell you this, my kids would have went to live with ANYONE but me if I had done this to them.
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I was in far enough I decided it was my job to save someone gay--or shall we say, the lds leaders thought it was my job--and I took the job very seriously. I was as devout as they come. But, like you, now I look back and I believed different than a lot of people. I KNEW I didn't see mormonism like others. I also thought I had no other choice--or be damned. Now I know I never had a testimony of
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He was there with me when my ex left me--and he was a source of comfort for my 10 year old twins. He got hit by a car barely. Got up and ran to me, laid down and died in the van when I was going to the vet. I was just thinking about this last night--no doubt the very hardest day of my life. That was 16 years ago. I lost both my parents within 2 months 4-1/2 years ago. Two years later, I had to
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When I was single until 27, my married friends with up to 5 children each AT AGE 27--always bugged me about not finding a man yet. Then one of my high school friends (one with 5 kids) told my sister they were all envious of my freedom, job, car, clothes, traveling. When I had my twins at age 28 (I didn't get a choice in having 2), my SIL said mothers don't tell you how difficult it is because
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I KNOW these things blow up--but I'm always shocked by them. I think she is actually acting pretty predictably from watching news stories over the years. You have done the right thing. Your son will be okay--because, like others have said, you are fighting for him.
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and my mother was not very social. She was raised by 2 deaf parents--as their oldest child--and she had suffered a lot from the way they were treated as children, too. My dad drank coffee, alcohol (but so did all my aunts and uncles on his side of the family) and I found out in the last few years of his life that he chewed tobacco--as did his father--who was a veteran of WWI. We were not treat
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An ex-wife of a gay who I talk to told me about this. I might watch it later. From long experience, it is often after they come out even if they stay married--that they eventually blast out of the closet. This is just the first step--going public. Most ex-wives and gays I know--it was after they went public that the marriage disintegrated. I'm just waiting for his story after he does as there
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". . . it gets harder to live as things go on." I've really felt that way since when? I don't feel like I've gained wisdom. I feel like I just carry more baggage. The one and almost only thing that helps me--and I finally forced myself out the door again this morning--is to walk and walk and walk. It is how I've healed. I have been in therapy for a long time off and on--but I can be
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My gay "ex" husband is a breeder, too.
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cream of chicken soup has chicken in it--which is one of the main ingredients, so if you don't eat meat, I wouldn't be eating funeral potatoes. My recipe calls for bacon--but I never put it in. I think under cooking the potatoes is one of the big issues. I make sure I "over cook" them.
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A lot of medical transcription has left the U.S. so your medical records are being typed up by people with English as a second language. Do we believe that medical errors will not go up? It is all about the bottom dollar for the companies. They don't give a @#$%& about their employees.
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I didn't have to go to school to have bullies--I lived with one. What happened with me is that I found out when I finally took a stand--that everyone in the family just expected me to "handle her." She is only 17 months older than I am. If I handle her, then the family (including her kids) dynamics work better. For over 8 years, I didn't handle her--after she and her husband caused $200
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I have very few friends on fb. I got on fb to talk to ex-wives of gays. It also helps to see what my daughter posts when she is in Alaska working. What I've found in the past month or so is being able to connect with my cousins and an aunt (one of the few left)--which has been nice. A neighbor from my childhood found me right off the bat. I mean--we pretty much lived together, my sisters and
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I got a big kick out of the talk to me. Most people probably think I'm nuts--I talk to my dogs endlessly. After all, they are my best friends. I sing to them, too. They have all had their "own songs." They do sing back actually--have you ever noticed? My kids and I could not have survived without our dogs. Someone asked on this board a few years ago--how would your kids feel if t
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I read the first thread. And thinking about it--having several family members who were sexually abused--I believe you need to show your son that what she did was wrong and that you are fighting for him. We never know what the future holds in terms of fallout from this happening to him. He needs to know his mother knows he was victimized and she fought for him. That is just my opinion, but I'v
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Then the boyfriend and I will be going to the Mountain Man Rendezvous up Blacksmith Fork Canyon. I've never been and I have lived about 5 miles from it for 27 years now. My kids and ex used to go all the time.
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moments I asked myself the same thing. I had twins and I had HORRIBLE motion sickness and morning sickness. The cesarean delivery was easier on me than that. AND like Mia said, my body has never been the same. Carry 13 pounds of baby around for almost 9 months. I have also watched almost all my aunts and uncles die and my parents die in the past few years. Watching them go downhill over the y
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