Posted by:
Joy
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Date: August 17, 2013 01:45AM
That I was of value only in serving the cult.
They liked me because I played the piano and organ. I always had a second calling, teaching in the Sunday school and Primary, plus Cub Scouts. I found out that only a handful of Mormons were my friends outside of those callings.
Everything in the cult is stratified--even its heaven, and even within the CK, there is a "highest" degree of the CK, where Mormons will be "kings and queens, priests and priestesses."
No matter how hard I worked, no matter how deeply I believed, I still was:
A woman--lower than a man, unable to ever hold the priesthood.
Dark-eyed and dark-haired, not "white and delightsome."
Divorced--no matter how moral, righteous, and faithful I tried to be, I was always the divorced woman. No matter the reason for a divorce--wife-beating, or cheating--I was blamed for it, because the woman is supposed to keep her husband happy, righteous, and satisfied.
We're dropping lower and lower in the Mormon ladder-day-ladder.
Working mother--there have been many conference speeches and RS lessons on why women should not work. (No one mentioned having to support your children.)
Question asker. Whenever I asked question during a lesson, or even in conversation, I would get glares and silence.
Lower? I stopped wearing my garments, stopped going to the temple, stopped paying tithing.
Lower--I learned that Mormonism is a fraud cult.
Lower--"Less active"--I was love-bombed and threatened on my doorstep, by Mormons, in groups of two's and three's. They came to insult me to my face, to denigrate me in front of my children, to frighten me with dire predictions of our future--as if the priesthood had the power to control my future. A person who wishes harm on you is called an "enemy."
Now I'm shunned, and that can be crazy-making. Did I just imagine all those friends? No. They were enemies in disguise, who were constantly manipulating me into giving them my time and training for FREE. It was all just business, a sales ploy.
I still struggle with low self-esteem. I have a hard time accepting new friends, and often stop and think, "What does this person want from me?" I have given up ever finding unconditional love. Somehow, I was born unworthy of that.