From a now-closed thread . . .
"JW":
"For Steve
"I am an ex-Mormon and an atheist. The only problem I have with you in the present context is that you have demonstrated on this Board, over and over again, a complete intolerance of views that are not consistent with your own. This intolerance has not just been about critical thinking, it has often spilled over into the personal, in that you have suggested that people having such opposing views are stupid and worthy of distain. In my opinion, by taking this approach you have undermined much of the good you do as an ex-Mormon."
--My response:
It is telling that you don't seem to mind participating on a board (RfM) where Mormonism is clearly not respected or tolerated because it is deemed to advance notions which are viewed as "stupid" and "worthy of disdain." I consider god-belief to be a notion that decidedly falls into the category of proveable foolishness and therefore regard rejection of it to be a legitimate pathway to recovery from Mormonism. Everyone has the equal right to express their ideas but not all ideas are created equal. I do not see it as my obligation to respect or tolerate religious ideas (whatever their source) which, to me, are utterly senseless, decidedly harmful and in their various manifestations clearly reminiscent of Mormonism.
You may not see it that way, of course, but everyone here has their own road to recovery--including those who critically and openly assess other forms of god-belief and conclude them to be noxiously, logically, demonstrably and destructively similar to Mormonism. Indeed, many on this board have made precisely that point. It is the clash of contrary views on matters religious that is a hallmark of this forum.
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"JW":
"I am not suggesting you should attack Maxine Hanks. I am suggesting that you should consider toning down your rhetoric on the assumption that there are others, perhaps like Maxine Hanks, that deserve a higher level of understanding."
--My response:
That is simply your opinion and one with which I profoundly disagree. I apply the same standard of assessment to other modes of faith-"think" as I do to Mormonism. To recognize and debunk the kissin' cousins of Mormonism is, in my view, to aid in recovery from Mormonism.
As to what I am saying about Maxine, you do not, in terms of critical actualities, understand her situation, her belief set (or lack-of-belief set) or her reasons, in toto, for returning to Mormon membership; therefore, where you have wandered off in your own "rhetoric" is in offering uninformed speculations about her basis for, and the conditions surrounding, that return.
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"JW":
"That said, when Maxine Hanks rejoined the Mormon Church, she would have been required to repent of her past errors (sins) and seek forgiveness from God for her critical writing about the Church and CHurch leaders. She would have had to acknowledge that Joseph Smith was a prophet, and the male dominated priesthood was God's plan after all. Thus, she either lied, or she is now a believer. It is not like someone who knows it is false, but chooses, for whatever reason, to stay. Maxine Hank's high profile, and excommunication, puts the matter on more serious moral footings."
--My response:
You haven't the foggiest idea of what Maxine has been supposedly required to do or not do in being re-baptized. Your assertions are teeming with false assumptions. There are details and circumstances surrounding why and how her re-baptism was effectuated, about which you do not have the slightest clue.
Like I said in the previous thread, I would address those matters directly and in detail, were it not for the fact that Maxine has personally asked me not to. I have, as her friend, honored that request; you, of course, are free to continue to snipe away at her without knowing the facts.
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"JW":
"I will give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she is a woman of character and actually believes Mormonism. If that is the case, then so much for her critical thinking skills. If, on the other hand, she is tricking the Church and is attempting to change it from within, then she is equally misguided, because Mormonism is fundamentally false, from beginning to end, and as an institution is doing great personal and social damage. To attempt to save it from within, by somehow making it a viable spiritual alternative, is almost as misguided as believing it in.
"So, either way, Maxine Hanks deserves reproach. Notwithstanding your attempts to salvage her character, and refusal to challenge her publically, by alligning herself with FAIR, she speaks volumes. It is a slap in the face to all exMormons who have been abused by Mormonism, and especially to you, her friend. Seeking spirituality is one thing. That is deeply personal. However, alligning oneself with a group whose very purpose is to lie and deceive, and put down and ridicule those of us who have been victimized by Mormonism and are speaking out, is quite another."
My response:
In your mind, she is either "tricking the Church" or "trying to change the Church from within," and is therefore "deserving reproach." Again, your simplistically-uninformed speculations are leading you to conclusions regarding circumstances surrounding her re-entry into the Mormon Church about which you are insufficiently educated.
Carru on.
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Observations made by two other posters in the previous thread:
From "sofia":
"You are being a good friend, Steve. I don't know Maxine's reasons. I have friends and family members who stay in the church. I know why some do, but some baffle me. Each have different paths to walk in this life. I can't live in the church right now, but have not resigned. To me it is recognizing their power, but I completely understand why some do and maybe someday I will. I don't understand why Maxine is speaking at FAIR, but I don't need to."
from "dagny":
"I'm sure she has her reasons for whatever she is doing. She has no obligation to explain to anyone.
"I do wish that she would not take what a bunch of us goofballs on a bulletin board say seriously. If only she could just blow off whatever it was that bothered her based on the fact she is probably smarter than 10 of us combined.
"A lot of the people who stay here have developed the ability "to have thick skin and speak out when they are miffed. Maybe if she had put the smack down to us we could have apologized or corrected things. Maybe it wasn't worth her time or interest.
"Since we don't get to know the facts, people will speculate. I guess that's what usually happens.
"I hope she has found a spiritual home if that is what she is looking for. She was a lovely person. I hope she is doing well."
(for the entire, now-closed thread from which the above was extracted, see:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,970687,970687#msg-970687)
Edited 37 time(s). Last edit at 07/28/2013 05:42PM by Susan I/S.