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Posted by: perceptual ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 03:56AM

I have a friend who's in her 40's, and I'm not sure if I can tell if she's a virgin or not. She's never been married (engaged once), and says sex before marriage is evil. I don't even know what that means.

She told me she's drank, but I keep wondering if she's lost her virginity. I'd think someone who's been down that road would get a glint of an idea to think for themselves and feel more empowered, already knowing what it's like, but I think maybe she hasn't. Honestly I can't figure out why a single virginal girl of that age wouldn't just be going for anything at that point.

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Posted by: al-iced ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 05:36AM

Your subject looked like it was begging for a punch line. But, I see you didn't intend this to be a joke.

My response: Its none of your business.

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Posted by: al-iced ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 09:06AM

At the same time, I'd also say that it is none of her bishop's business either.

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Posted by: perceptual ( )
Date: July 10, 2013 10:01PM

Yah... odd that someone might get offended that a friend asks but not a man in his 50's that she only sees at church.

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Posted by: schmendrick ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 07:13AM

Wow.

Look, if you want to know if she's a virgin, ask. If it's any of your business, she'll tell you.

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Posted by: fidget ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 07:22AM

I agree that it's really none of your business.

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Posted by: rhgc ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 08:50AM

Only legitimate way to find out is to date her and see how far she will going under the spell of love. Of course, if you are married this is a very bad thing to do.

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Posted by: kj ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 09:00AM

to other friends that she's a virgin.

If someone thinks sex before marriage is evil I'd say there is some guilt there....maybe fear and probably no experience.

My friend is strange...........not just virginal.

KJ/AnonyMs

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Posted by: subeam ( )
Date: July 09, 2013 09:06AM

There is a radio show around here called "hair or bare". And I don't get the fascination wither a girl has hair or is bare down there. Anyway please don't ask her leave her privacy. When she want's to tell you she will.

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Posted by: dogzilla ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 02:52PM

"I can't figure out why a single virginal girl of that age"

As a grown-ass woman of (almost) 44, I had to cringe at the idea of referring to another grown-ass adult in her 40s being called a "girl." Really? She's not a grown up just because she hasn't done the deed? Is she mentally disabled or are you just patronizing?

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Posted by: perceptual ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 05:31AM

I did think about whether I should use that word or "lady", or "woman"... but maybe I was just subconsciously following along the lines of Neil Diamond.

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Posted by: BadGirl ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:29PM


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Posted by: Outcast ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 02:55PM

Ask her out and try to get her in bed. Usually that's when the truth comes out.

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Posted by: Joy ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 06:03AM

No-no, Outcast, that's how you tell if someone is gay or not.

I like the answer, "The Mormon virgin will tell you." I have a few virgin friends over the age of 35, and they brag about it. I mean, I've been to parties with them, and this is just about the first thing they say, after the name. "My name is Sarah, and I'm a virgin."

If you are having to guess, then the answer is not-a-virgin, and it shouldn't make any difference.

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Posted by: Homer ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 03:03PM

Ask her to take a polygraph about some other issue, and then sneak the "Are you a virgin?" question in more as a validity question. That way you'll know for sure.

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Posted by: skeptifem ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:22PM

Homer Wrote:
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> Ask her to take a polygraph about some other
> issue, and then sneak the "Are you a virgin?"
> question in more as a validity question. That way
> you'll know for sure.


am I the only one who thought this was hilarious?

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Posted by: vh65 ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 07:15PM

I really don't understand why you need to know

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Posted by: summer ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 07:32PM

perceptual Wrote:
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> Honestly I can't figure out why a single virginal girl of that age wouldn't just be going for anything at that point.

Because she doesn't need to. She has a life to attend to -- work, interests, friends. She can get herself off just fine if need be. She might even be able to do it just by using her thoughts, no touching needed. So why settle for just "anything?"

Oh yeah, and at the age of 40-something, she really does deserve to be called a woman, not a girl.

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Posted by: perceptual ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 05:33AM

How do you do it with your thoughts?

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Posted by: summer ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 10:46AM

Think sexy thoughts, spontaneously get off.

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Posted by: truthseeker ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 11:19AM

+1000 to summer. Single does not necessarily mean desperate.

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Posted by: BadGirl ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:25PM


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Posted by: Raptor Jesus ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 07:44PM


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Posted by: tig ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 08:35PM

Burn the witch!!!!!

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Posted by: schmendrick ( )
Date: July 11, 2013 09:20PM

Is she good looking? If so I volunteer swimming lessons.

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Posted by: Mormon-0|Science-1 ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 03:13AM

Haha!

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Posted by: Stumbling ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 06:11AM

To the OP, why do you want to know?

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Posted by: dogzilla ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 09:15AM

Has anyone else seen The Life of Brian, where they try to determine if Brian's mom is a virgin? The spend the whole movie following her around, trying to get her to answer the question.

"Are you a virgin?"

And Brian's mom answers with, "That's none of your business!"

And they all mumble and murmur to each other, "yeah, she's a virgin..."

Just wanted to throw that in because I thought you should all know that I'm reading this thread with British Monty Python accents in my head. Y'all are hilarious! ;>)

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Posted by: breedumyung ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 10:22AM

Mormon Virgin: Girl who can run faster than her brothers....



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/12/2013 10:23AM by breedumyung.

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Posted by: Senoritalamanita ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 11:16AM

Hey, what about guy virgins! They exist.

I once knew a self-proclaimed 30 year old male virgin who said he tried to kiss a girl once when he was about 18 years old and she was repulsed by his advances, so he never tried dating or kissing any woman again.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/12/2013 01:16PM by Senoritalamanita.

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Posted by: Exmofo ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:22PM

Mormon Guy Virgin: Any male arronic priestholder who can run faster than his scoutmaster(s).

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Posted by: Doxi ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:13PM

A- The sex is the same, but the dishes are starting to pile up.

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Posted by: Exmofo ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:19PM

Oh..oh..OMG. I don't know whether to laugh or vomit or both.

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Posted by: skeptifem ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:20PM

perceptual Wrote:
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> I have a friend who's in her 40's, and I'm not
> sure if I can tell if she's a virgin or not. She's
> never been married (engaged once), and says sex
> before marriage is evil. I don't even know what
> that means.
>
> She told me she's drank, but I keep wondering if
> she's lost her virginity. I'd think someone who's
> been down that road would get a glint of an idea
> to think for themselves and feel more empowered,
> already knowing what it's like, but I think maybe
> she hasn't. Honestly I can't figure out why a
> single virginal girl of that age wouldn't just be
> going for anything at that point.

It really isn't that important to a lot of people. We are raised in a culture where sex is hyped as the best/most important thing ever, but really its just one aspect of a full life.

not really sure why it matters to you- will you treat her differently depending on the answer?

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Posted by: BadGirl ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:22PM

It's not a thing.
And some people really don't care. Why do you care so much about another person's personal life?

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Posted by: BadGirl ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:26PM

Do you refer to 40-year-old males as "boys"?
I know this 40-year-old boy who I think is a virgin.

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Posted by: Doxi ( )
Date: July 12, 2013 01:43PM

BadGirl Wrote:
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> Do you refer to 40-year-old males as "boys"?
> I know this 40-year-old boy who I think is a
> virgin.

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+1000,000!

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