Posted by:
kjourney
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Date: June 06, 2013 12:04PM
My TBM sister-in-law posted a link to this video on her facebook.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtzIcz7MOkcThis was my response:
"This makes me think we should put more emphasis on teaching our boys to respect and not objectify women. To me, there should be more responsibility put on the men and boys who do this and less pressure on girls to feel like they have to dress in a certain way because men can't control themselves. Men are visual creatures and I get that, but they have a responsibility to control that. If a woman dresses immodestly and a man takes advantage of her, is that her fault?"
This concept of dressing modestly because men can't control their sexual appetite has always bothered me. I was sexually abused by my friends father at age 9. I already thought it was my fault and never told my parents until I was an adult. When I began dating at 16 my mother told me that boys couldn't control their sexual desires and that it was my responsibility to stop them. Her comment really affected me as she had just confirmed what I already believed about the abuse being my fault. This took a lot of therapy to undo.
What are your thoughts? Do you yourself dress "immodestly" according to Mormon standards or do you let your daughters dress "immodestly?" Why or why not?