I obtained a copy of the "yellow dating rule card" that is handed out to the members of the YSA wards. I asked my brother for his copy (he had a few). He knew I only wanted it to make fun, but he thought me spreading the silly rules around would help the world to see how moral the mo-mo's are and how much respect they deserve. Riiiiight... Most of them keep it in their wallet as a reminder.

Anyway, here are the rules copied word from word from a yellow business type card that has been laminated. I'm not sure if these handouts are at a ward or stake level, but I haven't heard anyone else mention them yet. They are good for a few laughs, so I though I would share. Hope I didn't break any of the board rules by posting it.

DATING RULES

1. NO dating anyone who is not qualified to attend the temple
2. NO extended hugging and kissing sessions
3. No rubbing/massaging anywhere that would be covered by a garment
4. NO being together after midnight
5. NEVER, never be alone in a house or apartment
6. Don't be seen in night clothing-always be fully dressed
7. Never ever go into a bedroom together
8. NO parking
9. No lying down together to watch T.V. Always sit up.
10. No lying on top of each other
11. No R or X rated movies/videos
12. Long courtship, short engagement
13. Never do anything that would make your mother feel bad if she were watching you
14. Discuss these rules with your partner.

Where should I start. Don't park? Do people say that anymore?
I suppose it was obviously written by an old geezer, so I should go easy...

Talk about micromanagement. It makes me ill to imagine going back to the days of having to ask someone else what's good and what's bad. These poor people can't ever be trusted to think for themselves!

Can y'all imagine marrying someone you have done NONE of these things with? Awwwwwkward....

P.S. I asked my mother the other day why my brother is in such a rush to get married. Perhaps because of rule # 12? (He started planning his wedding a few weeks ago and it's scheduled for the end of June). My dear mother said "Well, I think it's because they've been dating so long, and he's just really ready." My reply? "Mom...they've been dating for 6 months." Mom exclaims, with shock that I would think otherwise, "That's a long time!" S.M.H. :-/



Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 06/05/2013 07:08PM by itsneverover.

Just FYI, I am going to break every single one of those rules tonight ;) And then some.

Oh, except #6 partially. No night clothing will be involved.

And #12. Fuck that altogether



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Oops, just saw your reply after posting my reply. Heh. Night clothing. Makes me chuckle.

itsneverover Wrote:
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> Oops, just saw your reply after posting my reply.
> Heh. Night clothing. Makes me chuckle.

When I was in (public) high school, at the beginning of the semester there was a kidnap breakfast as a "Hello and Welcome Aboard" to incoming Student Body Cabinet members. Those Student Body Cabinet members who had served in the previous cabinet (the previous semester) organized it...and phoned all the parents of the new members to tell them what was going on, to NOT to tell us, and to make certain their front door (or whatever) was UNlocked so they could enter quietly when it was morning, but still dark, and "kidnap" us.

It was FUN.

Afterwards, we went to school...and we (the new Student Body Cabinet members) were all allowed to wear our "night clothing" to our first three periods of school. (After which, we had to change into our regular school clothes, which our parents would have delivered to the school Administration Office.)

But for those first three periods, on one early day of every new semester, there were a bunch of kids who were in history and trig and English lit classes...all dressed as they had dressed for bed the night before. :-)

In high school and still today, I sleep in a t-shirt and panties. Surely, they'd have let me put pants on before kidnapping me to school?

Wow. You're going to let someone see you in "NIGHT CLOTHING"???????? Scandalous! Shame on you!!!!

I could rub and massage your feet, calves, hands, arms, neck and head until it sent you over the top bay-bee.



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No one parks anymore?? I really enjoyed that! Getting it on in an old VW bug was nice, that is when I was young and flexible. You had to be. It also seemed deliciously dangerous.. always in a little fear of getting a cop's flashlight shone on you at the wrong time..

I also liked the story that I believe was true..I knew those involved. A cop caught a couple parking in an orchard in Utah County.. and it was TWO GIRLS! That was incredibly scandalous then.. 1960's.

oh... I can testify to you that people still park ;)

Don't eat after midnight and don't ever get wet.

Damn it, I KNEW Mormons were Mogwi!!

#3 is stupid. I can imagine Momon teenagers groping and massaging each other's hands now

6 months of dating is a VERY long time in Mormondom. At that point, all the family elders and bishop and what not start to get worried that they're doing the nasty. Such a thing would be horrific because then they would be unclean and not fit for the temple. The virginity fetish is very strong in Morgdom.

>>4. NO being together after midnight<<
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Aw, it's more fun in the daylight, anyway.



>>10. No lying on top of each other<<
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Right, when you are on top of each other, you only tell the truth.

:::::::::humming "Paradise by the Dashboard Light"::::::::::::::

It used to crack me up at BYU when all us girls used to shriek with delight and gather in a girls dorm room to pass the engagement candle around.

Invariably, the lucky bride-to-be, had dated her beloved for a whopping 3 or 4 dates, and probably had a few chaste kisses in that time period.

The cynical (or naughty) part of me wants to think that that candle was a subliminal sort of phallic symbol. I feel the same way about Mormon Candle Salad -- a banana stuck inside a pineapple ring, copiously decorated with whipped topping.

Searching internet porn: College co-eds with candle.

I must research the truth.

For us, back in the late 60's, it was such a fun thing to do! I remember when my roommate got engaged, I went to a florist and picked out a candle (yellow, I think) and had it surrounded with yellow and orange daisies and interwoven with yellow and orange ribbons.

Those were her favorite flowers and favorite colors. We were like sisters and it was such fun, knowing about it and keeping it secret until "the moment."

Even in the days of Flower Power, there were moments of innocence, and the candle-passing ceremony was one of them. Everyone shared the joy.

They were still doing this in the dorms at BYU when I was there in the mid-80s. It probably wasn't done on as large of a scale but I sat through more than one of them. Funny how in a group of 30-40 girls, mostly 18-20, the one who is seriously dating someone didn't stick out like a sore thumb. Because so many were there seriously trying to find Mr. Right and because they seemed to be able to find him after so few dates that it was always a mystery, which girl would blow out the candle and announce her engagement.

We did this in my sorority in the heart of Never-Mo-Land too! But I think in all the many, many times we did it, only once or twice was it because the sister was engaged. All the other times, she was "pinned." She had been given her boyfriend's fraternity pin, which meant that they hoped/planned to get engaged at some point after graduation. The one or two who were actually engaged were seniors, and planned to get married after graduation.

We passed it around the circle once for friendship/sisterhood. If it was blown out on the second pass, she was pinned. If it was blown out on the third pass, she was engaged. We never got to fourth (married) or fifth (pregnant) passes.

WTF why have I never seen or heard of this? This is simultaneously hilarious and sad.

Also, why is there always so much focus on what you CAN'T do? Why not give positive relationship advice?

Because if you've covered Rule #1, you will have a good marriage, period.

Or not.



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How and when was this yellow card introduced?

Mormon women from Utah can be sensual and very sexy, The big twist is that Mormonism is still part of the deal. I don't really know how they reconcile this with bishop interviews and temple attendance, perhaps lying. That's just a silly game though.

What's sad is when healthy sexuality is damaged by unhealthy religions.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/06/2013 12:44AM by gentlestrength.

GS I don't know when it started or stopped but I was at Ricks from 69-71 and YBU after that until 76. I went to MANY candle light ceremonies. Don't know why it faded out. Ever changing mo'ism I suppose.

Carol

I never saw this card when I was still active, but I did hear this kind of talk the 7 years I was considered to be in the YSA group.

I'm getting horny just reading this list-

BTW, what if Joseph Smith was required to follow this same list... Do you think he could do it?



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/06/2013 12:24AM by orange.

This list seems like just the typical mormon stuff.

However, I was surprised at #12. I would've expected "Short courtship, short engagement".

Also, #11. I'm surprised they let them watch PG-13 movies on dates. A lot of movies with that rating these days have sexy content and nudity.

#14 is a bit weird as well. I mean, as a mormon, the list wouldn't have been a surprise to me, but actually DISCUSSING it with your date would probably be a bit uncomfortable, and depressing I imagine.

I was surprised by the advice for "long courtship" too, until I read further and discovered that six months is considered a long courtship.

Oh, Mormons.

Dating Rules!

1. turn off the lights
2. turn 'em back on when you're done

That does prevent breakage of #6, 11, & 13, since lack of light means lack of vision.



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This is a list given to young single ADULTS? Once again, proof that you aren't an adult in the LDS church until you're married.

I'm proud to say I broke every one of these rules in the YSA ward, some even at church activities!

One of my friends from Ogden didn't marry until she was 28 and her family always made her sit at the kids table at family gatherings. Because only MARRIED adults got to sit with the grown-ups, even if they were 10 years younger than my friend. She actually quit going to a lot of family things, because she got tired of being lumped with the children and got tired of being asked when she was getting married.

Most mormoons, not all, I have known were very immature. I think it's because they are sheltered from reality as kids and haven't had the chance to properly compartmentalize the complex subtleties of our culture.

In other words, this stupid cult holds its members in a child-like paradigm where obedience to authority is its preferred state.

It's Romper Room for adults.

This is the best approach if you want to marry someone with whom you are sexually incompatible.

Shopping in a can food supermarket with all the same labeling. What's on the inside is a complete surprise, but do not open until after eternal purchase.