The key to cracking the 'faith' and creating doubt in any Mormon's mind about their religion is to begin the process with material they cannot automatically ignore as 'anti-Mormon' because it's official LDS material.
The article by Nelson is online and entitled "A Treasured Testament" (ref.
https://www.lds.org/ensign/1993/07/a-treasured-testament?lang=eng). The quote in his article to bring to your wife's attention is:
“Joseph Smith would put the seer stone into a hat, and put his face in the hat, drawing it closely around his face to exclude the light; and in the darkness the spiritual light would shine. A piece of something resembling parchment would appear, and on that appeared the writing. One character at a time would appear, and under it was the interpretation in English. Brother Joseph would read off the English to Oliver Cowdery, who was his principal scribe, and when it was written down and repeated to Brother Joseph to see if it was correct, then it would disappear, and another character with the interpretation would appear. Thus the Book of Mormon was translated by the gift and power of God, and not by any power of man.”
Ask your wife reads this quote (assuming she's willing to), ask her: "Did the church ever teach you or any of its leaders ever inform you that Joseph Smith used a single stone and his hat to translate the Book of Mormon?"
Here's another quote from the church's The Friend Magazine (online) in Sept. 1974:
"Because of his spiritual nature and his willingness to learn the truth, Joseph Smith was tested and found worthy to be the translator of the Book of Mormon. To help him with the translation, Joseph found with the gold plates “a curious instrument which the ancients called Urim and Thummim, which consisted of two transparent stones set in a rim of a bow fastened to a breastplate.”
"Joseph also used an egg-shaped, brown rock for translating called a seer stone. The translating was done at Peter Whitmer’s home, a friend of the Prophet’s where Oliver Cowdery, Emma Smith (Joseph’s wife), one of the Whitmers, or Martin Harris wrote down the words spoken by the Prophet as soon as they were made known to him.
"Martin Harris said that on the seer stone 'sentences would appear and were read by the Prophet and written by [the one writing them down] and when finished [that person] would say "written;" and if correctly written, the sentence would disappear and another take its place; but if not written correctly it remained until corrected, so that the translation was just as it was engraven on the plates.'
"Even with the help of the Urim and Thummim and the seer stone, it wasn’t easy to translate the sacred record. It required the Prophet’s greatest concentration and spiritual strength."
(Ref.
https://www.lds.org/friend/1974/09/a-peaceful-heart?lang=eng)
Did the LDS Church or any of its leaders or instructors ever inform your wife that JS used an "egg-shaped, brown rock for translating"? (Probably not.) Why not?
The point to asking such questions is to kick-start (hopefully) your wife's innate ability to think critically about what she was systematically indoctrinated and conditioned by Mo-ism to automatically - and unquestioningly - mentally accept without scrutiny.
More:
According to the first (1830) edition of the BoM, who was the volume's author? Joseph Smith, Jr. (see the digital photo of the title page at
http://www.inephi.com/1.htmAsk your wife: In 1835, the year that JS turned 30 and five years after the church was formally established, whom did JS marry, bearing in mind that he was already married to Emma (in Jan. 1827)? Teenager Fanny Alger. The LDS Church's Family Search online genealogy record shows the details (ref.
https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.2.1/SP82-WTV).
More info. about Fanny is online at
http://www.wivesofjosephsmith.org/02-FannyAlger.htm and says the girl was "comly" (pretty) and "Fanny was living in the Smith home" when JS made her his first plural wife.
The WivesofJosephSmith.org website is based on historian Todd Compton's remarkable "In Sacred Loneliness: The Plural Wives of Joseph Smith" (ref.
http://signaturebooks.com/2010/02/in-sacred-loneliness-the-plural-wives-of-joseph-smith/). The webpage about Fanny Alger says:
"Joseph kept his marriage to Fanny out of the view of the public, and his wife Emma. Chauncey Webb recounts Emma’s later discovery of the relationship: 'Emma was furious, and drove the girl, who was unable to conceal the consequences of her celestial relation with the prophet, out of her house'."
Fanny couldn't "conceal the consequences of her celestial relation with the prophet", huh? Sounds like a swelling womb, to me.
Bear in mind that JS married Fanny in Ohio, where bigamy was against the law. Section 7 of the state's Sessions Laws said: "That if any married person, having a husband or wife living, shall marry any other person, every person so offending shall be deemed guilty of a misdemeanor, and upon conviction thereof shall be imprisoned in the penitentiary and kept at hard labor not more than seven years, nor less than one year[.]"
JS repeatedly broke the law with his practice of plural marriage in Ohio and Illinois (bigamy/polygamy was illegal there, too). His second known plural wife was the spouse of church member George Harris! (See
http://www.wivesofjosephsmith.org/03-LucindaMorganHarris.htm for more info.)
According to the LDS Church, "Revelation given through Joseph Smith the Prophet, at Nauvoo, Illinois, recorded July 12, 1843, relating to the new and everlasting covenant, including the eternity of the marriage covenant and the principle of plural marriage. Although the revelation was recorded in 1843, evidence indicates that some of the principles involved in this revelation were known by the Prophet as early as 1831." (Ref.
https://www.lds.org/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/132?lang=eng)
Verses 52 to 54 of D&C 132 say:
52 And let mine handmaid, Emma Smith, receive all those [females] that have been given unto my servant Joseph, and who are virtuous and pure before me; and those who are not pure, and have said they were pure, shall be destroyed, saith the Lord God.
53 For I am the Lord thy God, and ye shall obey my voice; and I give unto my servant Joseph that he shall be made ruler over many things; for he hath been faithful over a few things, and from henceforth I will strengthen him.
54 And I command mine handmaid, Emma Smith, to abide and cleave unto my servant Joseph, and to none else. But if she will not abide this commandment she shall be destroyed, saith the Lord; for I am the Lord thy God, and will destroy her if she abide not in my law."
(Ref.
https://www.lds.org/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/132.52-54?lang=eng)
Like any married Mormon woman (and with children to care for), Emma despised polygamy. On top of her family responsibilities, she was in charge of the Relief Society. And what was her husband doing? Pursuing single women, married women, and teenage girls (see the www.wivesofjosephsmith.org list and
https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.2.1/99P4-SHN).
Ask your wife: What happened in JS' life just two months before July 1843, when he wrote down that "the Lord" would destroy Emma, his wife and the mother of their children, if she did not accept his plural wives and "cleave unto" him?
Answer: At age 37, JS made 14-year-old Helen Mar Kimball his youngest-yet plural wife. She is listed as one of JS' wives toward the bottom of
https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.2.1/99P4-SHNAsk your wife: Why was JS, a married man with kids, going after the daughter of his priesthood subordinate, Heber Kimball, a girl young enough to be the daughter of JS?
Why did JS tell teenager Lucy Walker, whose mother and sister had died in Nauvoo, and whose father JS had sent far away on a mission to the eastern USA, that his marriage to her "would have to be secret"? (Ref.
http://www.wivesofjosephsmith.org/23-LucyWalker.htm).
Note that Lucy wrote: “Emma Smith was not present and she did not consent to the marriage; she did not know anything about it at all.” (Same link)
However, the LDS Church says that JS knew "the principles involved in this revelation [polygamy]...as early as 1831", one of which was "the first [wife] give her consent" (D&C 132:61).
The same verse indicates that Mormon men like JS could go after "virgins...vowed to no other man." But Mormonism's "prophet of the Restoration" married 11 women vowed to their husbands! (See the list at
http://www.wivesofjosephsmith.org/). And as married women, they were certainly not virgins.
So, what you have is a man who claimed to be an extra-special prophet of God who repeatedly disobeyed what "the Lord" told him (purportedly) AND the law, thereby violating the 12th Article of Faith ("We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law").
D&C 132:43 says that if a "husband be with another woman, and he was under a [marriage] vow, he hath broken his vow and hath committed adultery." JS repeatedly broke his marriage vow to Emma; he was a serial adulterer who preyed on women and girls.
According to D&C 76:103, after death adulterers will be sent by God to the Telestial Kingdom, to suffer there forever for their gross sexual immorality. If Mormonism is true, the TK has to be the post-mortality place where JS will languish forever due to his reprehensible conduct during his life. Applying LDS standards to him, JS made himself unworthy of celestial glory and even the Terrestrial Kingdom.
The motherlode of info. about Mo-ism is at
http://www.utlm.org/navtopicalindex.htmGo luck!