Posted by:
ronin
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Date: April 23, 2013 11:46PM
First of all, I'm not going to tell you one way or another what you should do. That choice is yours.
But I will tell you a story. Parables are great teaching tools.
Once there was a young man, he grew up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. All of his family were devout believers. When he was 18 the Stake President severely offended his parents, after that they quit going to church. But this young man kept going by himself and eventually put in his mission papers, he was the oldest of 5, and felt like he needed to be a good example, despite not having a testimony of his own.
He knew his parents weren't devout anymore, but didn't know how far the rabbit hole went. He went through the insane temple (wish he would have walked out too.) and then went to the MTC. When these people say that they brainwash you there, it is not a joke or an exaggeration.
This man left his family and lived at the MTC for 9 weeks, learning Spanish. He enjoyed his stay there, he really liked the people he was in class with and had a good time. But he was brainwashed. When you're there, you are spending 16 hours a day being brainwashed. For 1008 hours straight you are being brainwashed. But the MTC does have some perks, lots of food, lots of friendly people, and the like.
Soon after leaving the MTC, he realized that he was brainwashed, and tried to start thinking straight again. This man continued to his mission in Fresno, California. Where his life became manipulation from others. And soon a downward spiral of depression set into his life. Within 3 months of leaving the MTC the man was ready to take his own life, out of fear and desperation. Thoughts of suicide accompanied him always. After mental breakdowns and the worst month of his life, the man came home.
As you may have guessed, this story is my own. I returned three months ago, and haven't regretted the decision since. I don't know if the church is true or not. I go to single's ward every other week to hit on some hotties.
Here is my advice,
The best way to say "no" that I know of is to say "I don't feel ready yet." Which is true, you're not ready to sacrifice 2 years of your life for something you don't believe in.
If you do go, there are two key things that you NEED to do.
1. Tell your mission president and companion straight up that your aren't an obedient missionary. They can't legally send you home, they cant MAKE you get on the plane. But this will do something very important, it will let everyone know that you are your own person, and your aren't being controlled by them. And this will probably get you a disobedient companion which is a double plus.
2. Don't believe what you are told. Period. My mission president was the most manipulative person I have ever met. He said he loved me all the time. I got hit by a car going 45 MPH and he didn't come see me for two weeks.
I can describe my whole mission experience in one word. Manipulation. Everyone is manipulating everyone else for their own cause. Most of the time that cause is the same.
If you want to know for yourself read Social Engineering: The Art of Human Hacking. by Christopher Hadnagy. Awesome book.
After reading this I realized how deep the social engineering goes in the whole church population. It's insane.
By doing the above two things this should give you some breathing room for yourself to survive.
For me it was the worst few months in my life.
But it's not all bad, you get to meet cool people and hear crazy stories. I learned Spanish in the 4 months I was out and can still communicate with most people. You get to fully experience a different culture and lifestyle. It teaches you to enjoy normal life. I won't take it for granted ever again.
I also learned a lot about myself, and a lot about how people think and what makes them tick.
It's easier to stay here then to go out and come back.
This decision is yours and yours alone. Don't let anyone else tell you differently.