Anybody else want to contribute to this closed thread?
I had my answer typed and ready to go and ..boom. Closed thread! (Doncha just hate that! :-)
Anyhow.... I was officially out the door - resigned membership - dated June 27 2002. Couldn't believe the date-shoot out at Carthage Jail 1844 - death of Joseph Smith Jr. and his brother Hyrum Smith. I was 60, heading into 61. (Converted as a young adult in 1961 a year before I married an RM in the Logan Temple.)
I had done the dance to the door for about three or so years before I made my decision official - with the blessings of my TBM husband of 40 years at that point.
Why? Changed my mind is the best all inclusive answer! The others take too long to list! :-)
BIC, TBM, born and raised in SLC. Temple married in SLC. Attended Ricks and BYU. Moved to Vegas in 76. My cog dis wasn't a shelf, it was an entire house! Wasn't until the bishop's son leaned over one day and whispered in my ear, "the mormon church isn't true" that my brain finally started working again. I'd never considered that as a possibility!!! Still, it took me 5 years of furious reading to jump off that mental cliff and dump it all. I was in my mid 30's. My ex caught me reading "No man knows my history" and saw a lawyer the next day!
This was about 30 years ago when I had to go to the library for my exmo books.
Carol
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I found things out when I was 25, Im now 26 and will resign soon. My husband is 31. Im so glad we are finding out while our children are too young to have anything to do with mormonism.
Started seriously questioning at 19 but wasn't fully out mentally or physically until 25. Sadly I thought going on a mission would help me gain a testimony.
I was 48. I would not doubt if women in their 40's who finally don't care what anyone thinks including their children and husband finally give TSCC the final flip off for treating women as second class.
The 40's for women is an age where many are saying, "This is my face. Live with it." No one is the boss of me.
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I last set foot in a church 12 years ago and had my name removed four years ago. The name removal was a fluke. I tried to do it earlier not knowing there was a process. Discovered the process several years later and pressed the issue.
I think the two age groups that leave the church the fastest are people who don't have kids yet, and people whose kids have left the house. The ones in the middle, the church does a good job of using the fear that your children will turn into gang banging, porn staring, drunk driving, hooligans if you question, in order to keep you in line.
forbiddencokedrinker - I totally agree with you. It's easy for those BIC. All they do is study the true history (mormonthink.com) and realize they've been lied to their whole lives by those who've hid, covered-up, and suppressed the truth.
Spent 23 years, 7 months and 11 days in the church. Got real curious what a 5 billion dollar mall looked like and went on the internet to see what was up. Since TSCC wouldn't discuss finances, so I looked where it was openly discussed, HERE! Spent 2 long nights reading and 72 hours after looking up the Jesus mall, I told my wife the whole damn house of cards had fallen. Two weeks later my wife and I (late 40's), and two teenage son's resigned in writing. The third son had never been baptized (or been given the infant blessing) and proudly claims he is the only one in the family who was never a moron. So 5 of us left the church 2 weeks after finding this website. Does that make you all happy? I know that we are, thanks!
rando Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Spent 23 years, 7 months and 11 days in the > church. Got real curious what a 5 billion dollar > mall looked like and went on the internet to see > what was up. Since TSCC wouldn't discuss > finances, so I looked where it was openly > discussed, HERE! Spent 2 long nights reading and > 72 hours after looking up the Jesus mall, I told > my wife the whole damn house of cards had fallen. > Two weeks later my wife and I (late 40's), and two > teenage son's resigned in writing. The third son > had never been baptized (or been given the infant > blessing) and proudly claims he is the only one in > the family who was never a moron. > So 5 of us left the church 2 weeks after finding > this website. Does that make you all happy? I > know that we are, thanks!
Wow you are fast! How did everyone around you react?
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My brother and I were the only LDS in the family, wife's family is not LDS, and live in Florida (very few LDS here). So there was not negative effects on the family. My brother did marry into a LDS family. His sister in law and her husband are both RM. They researched the church history issues for three years and resigned about the same time as we did. They were early 30's with about 5 kids. In our small LDS world it was/is like the church is bleeding badly.
I was 24 when I formally resigned. BIC and many things never made sense to me. Like all good mormon children I learned to live with the cognitive dissonance. The CD that I couldn't ignore began at 18 when my dad died and I was chastised for grieving like a normal human. My last attempt to really believe was between 19-22. I even moved closer to my "spiritual" sister so she could help me. Instead what I got was the mormon gestapo wearing my sister's face. When I heard the announcement in 2000 that human DNA was fully mapped and we could tell exactly where we came from I figured this would finally prove the BOM.
Started having "issues" w/TSCC at 14, got back into it at BYU HC, went on a mission (biggest regret of my life!), left immediately after, got sucked in again for a few years due to family and the effects of brainwashing, left forever at 34.