Posted by:
munchybotaz
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Date: February 22, 2013 11:28AM
Yesterday was my mom's 77th birthday, so I called her and got about 3000% of my RDA of church babbling. She started right in with that.
It's just talking about her life and the people in it--the bishop this, the Primary kids that, she's my visiting teacher ya know. She lives in an area that's mostly Mormon, and nearly everyone she knows is involved with the church ... or if they're not, she tells me that. Her life revolves around the church. It gave her a social life and a life, really, because she was ready to check out after my dad died 10 years ago. The people in her ward really do seem to love and take of her, and I'm OK with that. Normally I try not to let the church babbling bother me.
But last night it felt excessive, as if she was going out of her way to explain each person's involvement and history with the ward. For example, one guy used to be a counselor in the bishopric, but then some other guy got that job. Why do I need to know that? Or half a dozen other things where it seemed she was deliberately backing up to plug in more church info. I began to wonder if the church babbling is just a way of pestering me about church, without actually pestering me.
Later, she got around to the thing on her leg that she's decided is shingles. She had that on her head and neck last year, and it was awful ... so awful, she wouldn't wish it on anyone except a certain political figure (you know, the one who's not white and delightsome). There are lots of things she'd wish on him.
And that's my cue to practice being comfortable with silence (unless I want to argue, which I most definitely don't). It's definitely pestering, even though I believe I've told her the person she referred to is far from my favorite of the evil, eeeeeevil people she could choose to pester me with. She can't resist throwing out these little test balloons to see if I've changed my mind.
It occurs to me the church babbling could be a similar thing, a deniable form of pestering.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 02/22/2013 11:58AM by munchybotaz.