Posted by:
intjsegry
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Date: January 12, 2013 01:02PM
I think it would depend... do they leave you alone?
My dad keeps sending me his testimony. THis Christmas I even got a "I found this in my archives and thought you would want a copy..."
It was an 8 page typed (make me gag because of my lemming attitude and embarrassing overly transparent naïveness) talk I wrote for church over 10 years ago. He can't just have a conversation with me, he has to always remind me how disappointed he is that I am not who I once was. This, to me, is offensive. I have kept my mouth shut, my views to myself, and respected his views... until now. i have to say something, now it is a matter of self respect. I cannot allow his horrible behavior to go unchallenged. (PS- this wasn't the first act, it was just the last straw).
His religion, is poisoning our relationship.
This quote came to mind:
"The argument with faith is the foundation and origin of all arguments, because it is the beginning—but not the end—of all arguments about philosophy, science, history, and human nature. It is also the beginning—but by no means the end—of all disputes about the good life and the just city. Religious faith is, precisely because we are still-evolving creatures, ineradicable. It will never die out, or at least not until we get over our fear of death, and of the dark, and of the unknown, and of each other. For this reason, I would not prohibit it even if I thought I could. Very generous of me, you may say. But will the religious grant me the same indulgence?
I ask because there is a real and serious difference between me and my religious friends, and the real and serious friends are sufficiently honest to admit it.
I would be quite content to go to their children's bar mitzvahs, to marvel at their Gothic cathedrals, to "respect" their belief that the Koran was dictated, though exclusively in Arabic, to an illiterate merchant, or to interest myself in Wicca and Hindu and Jain consolations. And as it happens, I will continue to do this without insisting on the polite reciprocal condition—which is that they in turn leave me alone. But this, religion is ultimately incapable of doing. As I write these words, and as you read them, people of faith are in their different ways planning your and my destruction, and the destruction of all the hard-won human attainments that I have touched upon. Religion poisons everything." _ Christopher Hitchens, from God is Not Great- How religion poisons everything
I love this part especially because it speaks such a HIGH truth;
"I ask because there is a real and serious difference between me and my religious friends, and the real and serious friends are sufficiently honest to admit it."
The question to me recently has been, if a subject is simply off limits... does that person really love me, do they respect me, do I respect them, and do I want to converse with them?
An ideal and TRUE friendship to me is one in which we can open, honest, and even argue and debate. Unfortunately, this eliminates most of my old friends and family from my life. However, I hold to this requirement in my friends, just as I do for myself. If I want people around me who challenge me and are honest, I can't surround myself with people who "set up parameters" on our interactions.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 01/12/2013 01:07PM by intjsegry.