I've been planning a dinner party for about a week and invited a TBM couple to join us.

Long story short, the wife shows up and says, oh sorry DH isn't going to make it. The EQ just called him last minute for a meeting. I asked her what they're meeting about and if everything was ok since they called him SO last minute. She said noeverything is fine and that they're probably changing the HT routes, that's typically what they do at those meetings.

For some reason I didn't believe what she was telling me. Her voice was hesitant and she got all shifty eyed.

Um, WTF? Am I missing something here? Seriously what would be so important to call a last minute meeting like that? At 7 on a weekday?

If that guy wants to be a slave for the church fine by me, I'm just pissed he blew us off to do so after I cooked and cleaned all day to have them over.

I don't get it. Even my TBM DH would have said no, we have plans already (barring some emergency). I just thought it was so rude of him to do that.

Something came up--- I guess, and he didn't come. Stuff happens.
Hard to know for sure what is really going on, sounds like it's private.
Well, guess you just go ahead without him and have a good time.

Yep, sounds like an excuse to me. Not much of a friend.

I would never invite them to dinner again.

Years of being Mormon and trying to have a social life around it caused us to invite people numerous times, plan, clean, cook, and then have them either cancel or even worse, stand us up. An ongoing theme of this board is how flaky, unpredictable, "ignernt," and rude Mormons are to each other.

Ok I realize things come up and people flake. I've done it myself before for one reason or another.

I'm just curious if in fact there was a meeting, what would rise to the level of being so important that they would have to meet with no notice? Totally unplanned.

Just struck me as weird.

Nothing short of the White Horse Prophecy unfolding or JuHEEsus' return would warrant such urgency.

Timothy

"Wow, and after I cleaned and cooked all day, too. That's so disappointing. I mean, I could understand if the church blew up, or flooded, or something...I guess they don't expect you to have a social life. Don't worry, I won't trouble the two of you again. It's obvious that you need to leave your calendar completely open for the church's needs. I hope that your sacrifices are appreciated." *smile*

Love it!

Funny how Mormons are so sure that people only leave the church because they are offended but never stop to realize how boorish and offensive Mormons are. Seriously, the rank and file of them have the worst manners and think anyone who comments on it is just anti-Mormon. Ugh.

Probably lieing and doesn't want to go to your house. I've worked all day to make things nice for entertaining and have had that happen, Mormon or not.

Bummer for you to cook and clean and prepare a nice evening for them, and get a last minute no-show from the husband.

The husband put DW in the awkward position of having to cover for him. She may well be angry at DH for his 11th hour unwillingness to accompany her, but as a loyal wife, did not feel free to say so.

In giving you the reason she gave you, it sounds like she was doing her best to spare your feelings.

Next time make it a point to not invite them.

if the lords representatives need anything, it takes precedent over everything else. The bishop wants something, you drop what you are doing and do what he wants.
This is the unwritten rule of first law of heaven and earth: obedience to the brethren.
Mormons tend to understand this and just accept it as the norm.
Others see it as lousy manners, and rude when it effects them.

Mormons lack social polish.

Not showing up was extremely rude.
The husband should have told whoever called him that he already had a prior commitment.

BLowing off your invitation at the last minute, whatever the reason, shows a lack of respect for the hosts.
Don't invite them again.

The guy accepted another invitation after accepting the one to your dinner party?

I've never heard of anything more rude!

Would the husband have blown off his guests for a meeting with the bishop? I doubt it. He could have begged off the meeting.

Unless she accepted the invitation without consulting her? He might have told her to cancel to 'punish' her.