Date: October 03, 2012 12:10PM
Outcast, that is a pretty bold statement.
You've overlooked the simple fact that in 99.999% of cases, heterosexual society has completely denied LGBTs any sort of familial relationship for as many generations as you care to name. Heterosexual society then thinks the problem is "gay promiscuity is the reason so many LGBT people are unhappy" and refuses to own its culpability in the crime.
Here is where I call you on your $#!t. If het society creates the situation where LGBT people can not form any sort of visible, socially accepted relationships, and are hounded out of family, town, existence no matter what sort of relationship we DID try to create, and are forbidden any publicly-acknowledgeable outlet for deep, long-term emotional ties, then what did you think was going to result?
Of course people, being human, are going to go looking for some other sort of human contact no matter how furtive, fleeting or tenuous, and will find it, NO MATTER HOW SHALLOWLY THEY ARE FORCED TO BEHAVE ACCORDING TO RULES INVENTED BY HETEROSEXUAL SOCIETY. Those rules are still in effect today in most of the world but are especially pernicious in cultural $#!tholes like Iran, Pakistan, Poland, Russia, Utah, Idaho, and several other U.S. states.
Did you get all that?
Heterosexual society created the situation, blamed the victim for the situation, and then triumphantly pointed self-righteous fingers at the lowly de-familied kweers and said "There, see? You see?!? LOOK at their DEPRAVITY! They CRAVE what we have but they JUST CAN'T STOP THEMSELVES!!!!"
It's a win-win situation all the way around for the het team, isn't it? Too bad for heterosexual society LGBT people just are not buying that bull$#!t any more. You don't get to say "well you homos have acquired a few of your rights, so why aren't you happy yet?" It doesn't work that way.
The reality is that we create our own family situations, which may or may not resemble hetero family situations. This is a phenomenon which most heteros, accustomed to seeing the concept of "family" only one way, cannot comprehend on any level. Heterosexuals who take the time to really dig into LGBT culture quickly learn that regardless of whether you recognize the pattern or not, it does not mean the pattern does not exist.
LGBT families are bound together by the deep, long-term emotional ties you note. Most of heterosexual society simply doesn't understand that to the LGBT person, many of whose blood family have rejected us on more than one level, "family" is comprised of elements that go unrecognized, thus unnoticed, by heterosexuals.
Simple truths about LGBT sexual freedom that most heterosexuals with marginal exposure to the gay world have always intentionally or unintentionally misconstrued, misinterpreted, or misunderstood (or categorically refused to acknowledge):
* casual sex has little or nothing to do with any need to build deep, long-term emotional ties, but in fact casual sexual encounters do occasionally become deep, long-term emotional ties, frequently with no more sexual interaction.
* casual sex has little or nothing to do with LGBT family structures, which often but not always have been constructed to exclude casual sexual encounters, for several reasons which I will not go into.
* infrequently, LGBT families have been constructed so that sexual encounters stay within the family: but unlike similar heterosexual arrangements, no incest or adultery is involved.
* casual sex is no longer seen as a blanket response replacement for intimacy-loss, familial unit, or psychological shortcoming without taking into account all other contributing factors by anyone in the mental health professions.
In short, such broad-brush characterizations as you have made are not a defensible analysis. As lulu noted, your sample is not big enough to make such conclusions valid.