Am I being self righteous or judgmental by telling someone that what they said was self righteous and/or judgmental?

*scratches head* you got me there.....

Survival requires us defend ourselves when we're cornered or ambushed.

Do you often confound yourself with circular logic?

Hey, my shoes are untied!

I love to play jokes on myself!

Timothy



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/10/2012 02:30PM by Timothy.

Similar to something I struggle with. I believe in tolerance. Do I have to be tolerant of intolerance?

You're definitely self righteous if you tell someone that.

And I know I am not self righteous!

(Just havin fun!...)

It is not self-righteous. It IS judgmental. Which brings us to the BigSecret: judgment is not always bad. Even the Bible acknowledges that.

Is this sentence self referential?

Maybe, but ask yourself why you need to tell someone. What are you getting out of it by telling someone when they are acting like a selfish jerk? Does it change their behavior? If not, then why bother?

It really depends on the topic. The Bible does say that we can judge in righteousness so then that becomes what is the definition of righteousness. That depends on the individual. If they are Christian, then use the Bible to point out the error, if they follow a different path, maybe study what the person uses as their "Religion". To use "your" beliefs on someone with different beliefs...not so good.

I do this all the time.

I judge the church for lying and call them liers. I judge anti-gay people for hating out of fear and ignorance and call them homophobes. I judge mysoginists for treating women like they're less than or racists for being ugly to people based on their genetics.

But, I also try to realize that each person has a background that built them and take that into consideration.

I have also lived a very kharmic life, sometimes that felt a bit painful but it has also educated me and made me less ignorant to the plight of others.

So these days I ask myself if I'm willing to get a kharmic slapdown if I judge a person/entity. If I truly feel I can stand by that judgement then I make it.

I wonder if the OP is trolling...

Nope. Not trolling. I was actually "scolded" for telling another person their comments were self righteous and judgmental.

Thanks for the reality check.

Carry on!

Just kidding . . . but I couldn't resist!

If you are uncomfortable labelling them (and afraid they'll turn it on you), just tell them their behavior is unacceptable. Tell them that you don't accept their opinion of you. Or that what they think of you is none of their business. Or that judgement based on false "standards" is faulty.

In other words, just set boundaries.

And it's not self-righteous or judgemental to recognize what's actually there. In my mind, self-righteousness, is when a person tries to make themselves feel better about themselves by showing off their superiority or putting others down. Recognizing when somebody does that is just normal.

I've been struggling with this myself.

I get mad at people, and then realize I'm judging them. But then I realize they deserve to be judged, and I get madder.

I'm trying to forgive others and myself instantly and completely.

Or become a hermit.

Whenever we assert our "rightness" over what we perceive as someone else's "wrongness", we are being self-righteous.

My question is: Is being self-righteous always a bad thing?

Somebody posted a comment about an interview with "octomom" Nadya Suleman and a bunch of people chimed in about how she was making a living (porn) was so wrong and she should have her kids taken away and on and on. When I commented that she had done nothing illegal, at least not illegal where she lives, and therefore had done nothing to justify having her kids removed I was attacked for causing problems. People truly amaze me sometimes.

Note: My defense of octomom's career choice is in no way an enforcement.