So I great friend of mine got married today. Last night I attended dinner, this morning the sealing and have decided not to go to the reception. I had attended many other weddings before (I'm 25), but this was the first one as a non-believer.

I was astonished at how everything seems so fake. A few tears, yes, but that's all. There was no engagement surprise, no bride's dresss surprise, everything is planned and executed. That's all. During the toast time, my friend was saying how much she loved her fiance and how he was her best friend. All I wanted to do was stand up and yell "For the love of God, you've known him for 4 months!!!"

I also noticed how superficial mormons are. Her fiance was quite bulky, and all people could compliment him for was for being so "athetic" and bla bla bla..

I am happy for her, but it hurts me to see that she's only doing it out of extreme pressure. It was really coincidential that she got engaged a week after her two best friends got married. Talk about wanting to fit in...

wow, you attended the freaky sealing, it takes alot balls to do that. the couple have known each other 4 months!!!! are they crazy? Well for mormondom this is normal.

a great analogy is when visiting a physchiatric ward at the looney farm, I got the urge to fit in, so I.......(use your imagination).

you were being a very good friend to her. But it sounds like you wanted to stand up and say "your making a big mistake!" aren't you glad it wasn't you that was getting married!

Yah, I tried to do the happy mormon family thing. Didn't work out too well for me. We tried it, didnt work out so well. I am grateful that even though we wanted kids that it never happened, cause now I have MY life back, and NO commitments to anyone or anything, except of course shoveling horse s*** on Sunday mornings now, which seems to be a fine replacement activity for going to a cult meeting instead cause its all s***!
I really did think that to be part of the "in" crowd that I too HAD to be married. Now I realise that was a really screwy idea. Im a lot happier now. Peace.

Yes, Mormon weddings are crazy that way. When you are young and all your friends are marrying guys they've only known 6 months or less, it seems like a perfectly workable solution - in fact, quite romantic. When you are my age (40s) and you look around and see the vast majority of your Mormon couple friends living parallel lives, more in love with the church than each other, you start to realize what a really terrible idea the Mormon Marriage Myth is. You realize it takes far more than a mutual commitment to a religion. I have friends who never have a clue what is going on with their spouse. I know other people who married guys who really weren't up to their speed intellectually or in any other way, just because they were RM's and it was drilled into them that they had to marry an RM in the temple to live happily ever after. These women constantly talk dismissively of their husbands or rarely interact with them. I'm sure there are men in the same position with their wives - fooled by the blonde Molly Mormon that 10-15 years later they have nothing in common with, no meeting of the minds, no emotional connection.

Mormons tend to think you grow together and in some cases, that may be true. But it's way risky to assume it will happen because it takes work and those who married without too much thought either have to work extra hard or face a future of parallel lives on the "straight and narrow" with something key missing.

Well said CA girl! 2 thumbs up!!

Well, if you can't have sex until you marry and you are horny and young, it makes a kind of sense.

I've always reflected how people get so swept up in the event that the important stuff gets completely missed and ignored. I doubt that is unique to Mormism, but it seems Mormonism compounds it even more.