...a couple of weeks ago on FB. I had written as my status:
dammitdammitdammitdammitDAMMIT!
She commented with darnitdarnitdarnitdarnitDARNIT!!!
I replied with "seeing that your journey into Mormonism started off with watching a musical riddled with levels of obscenity that even I am not capable of, and that you continue to regularly quote and sing songs from this musical, your seeming aversion to my use of the word 'dammit' makes me smile."
She was inspired to convert to Mormonism after watching the Book of Mormon musical.
Well, I was having a bad day again today, so I reposted my dammitdammitdammit status. She comments with "I'm leaving this alone this time." I replied with, "in the mood I'm in, that may be in your best interest."
I then received this private message:
Jezzie, I just wanted to let you know that what you've said to me previously about the book of Mormon musical felt like a huge slap in the face and to be honest it was hurtful. I'm not trying to be overly sensitive but just know the only songs I listen to from that musical are "LDS appropriate" and I find the truth within them. So please refrain from calling me out about practicing what I preach. You'll be in my prayers -TBM
I responded with:
Thanks for your message. No offense was meant by that previous comment, and I'm very sorry that it did offend you. I guess I wasn't really in the mood to have somebody correcting my choice of words, which is what your response seemed to be doing. Anyhow, I have no hard feelings, and I hope that you don't anymore either.
So what if you did. She told you she felt hurt. You apologized and told her you didn't like being corrected. Problem resolved. That is how adults communicate.
First, there is nothing wrong with what you said the first time. Anyone with a sense of humor would appreciate it. The most important part of a sense of humor is having a sense of humor about YOURSELF first.
Nothing else is funny if you can't find your own little self funny.
Your final apology seems like caving to her mormoness. For me there is a difference between respect and acquiescing.
But, enough of that. She actually converted after seeing The Book of Mormon musical?!?! She listened to to the whole thing, frogs included, and then was offended at what you said? It was funny.
It was a great way to get your point across and then have a laugh. She missed a great opportunity to be a human.
"I simply meant humor and nothing more, it's not my place to tell others how to live. I appreciate the apology. No hard feelings at all! God bless and good luck with everything."
It would have been nice if she had apologized that I interpreted her attempt at "humor" as an attempt at censorship.
You're right, blueorchid. I did cave in. This is what I wrote back.
"Thank you. Also bear in mind that if you do find my postings (or those of others) to be bothersome or offensive to you, you can always change your FB settings to limit those that show up on your newsfeed. "
I think that was a nice way to say, "If you can't take the heat, stay outta the effing kitchen!"
I think it's hilarious. She's become super-TBM now...just in 7 months' time.
She's done more dead-dunkings in 6 months than I ever did in three years....posts all these pictures of herself holding the BoM saying "On my way to the temple!!!"
She's a junior in college, and she's transferring to BYU. Knowing what I know about her financial situation, I know damn well she's not doing it because of money, like i did (I didn't transfer, btw. I actually started at BYU with the intent of transferring out. I ended up staying because it made more financial sense.)
That is strange that she got offended. I would think she would find her unusual conversion at least a little humorous. In a strange way I could see someone converting to Mormonism after the musical and being a somewhat liberal Mormon who thinks Mormonism is fun but doesn't take everything literally. But becoming uber-TBM in just a few months is very strange to me. I bet her story would be an inspiration to a lot of members though. No matter what persecution and ridicule comes their way the church will only get stronger from it.
Nope. She's working on getting one though. Willing to subject herself to BYU to acquire one. If I were her, I'd just buy the damn gerbil and stay put. At least you can count on him to not strut around a secret room in a baker's hat and tell you that you can only reach heaven through him.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/21/2012 09:26PM by jezebel2mishies.
Gerbils are a great option for many different types of people; however, I probably wouldn't recommend them to lonely folks with histrionic tendencies. A lone gerbil cannot compete with a larger audience, nor will a gerbil be turned on by the attention-starved subject's constant sex-talk.
Good point. Said subject has non-gerbil pets. And they each have their own Facebook profile. Their statuses are updated regularly. And I thought I was nuts when I converted...
So what is this obsession with swearing that Mormons (and others) have? For many, it seems more about image than anything else.
If "bad" words offend you so much, why use any word that connotes the same thing as the "bad" word?
Hearing a watered down version of any swear word usually makes me think of the "bad" word and voila', same effect as if they'd said the real word. When someone says "Darn it!" it makes me think of the word "damn." When some Mormons I know say "Oh, fudge!" it makes me think "Oh, f*ck!"
Heck, darn, shoot geez, gosh, fudge, frick.
Who gets to decide what words are verboten? In the US, we use the word "bloody" without a second thought, such as "How did you get that bloody nose?" Go to England and say "bloody" in a pious group and watch the reaction you get.
TSCC: Isn't it about image?
p.s. Jezebel, I think you handled the situation very well. Mormons don't like to have pointed out how hypocritical they were when they called-out others,especially the unwashed heathens.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/30/2012 07:31AM by Surrender Dorothy.
>>She was inspired to convert to Mormonism after watching the Book of Mormon musical. >>the only songs I listen to from that musical are "LDS appropriate" and I find the truth within them.
Fail. How do you miss the sarcasm in all of those songs and throughout the entire musical?
I couldn't be friends with somebody who converted because of the musical, due to their lack of intelligence. How does she function on a day-to-day basis?