Posted by:
lindsaymccall
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Date: December 09, 2010 01:45AM
I've had three big moments when a bishop or a bishopric member has "counseled" me on things I should have seen a professional therapist for.
--The first time, when I was severely depressed as a teenager, my bishopric 2nd counselor (a hardcore fanatical TBM) told me it was because I was sinning in private. I confessed to masturbating, like any normal teenager, and I was punished. I was told the devil had taken a hold of my soul, and that made me terrified to sleep alone in my room in the dark... Two months after that, a proper therapist diagnosed me with manic depression and I found a way to manage my depression, no guilt trip prescribed.
--The second time, when I was nineteen and had been brutally raped and attacked with a knife by my former boss, my newly called bishop (also hardcore fanatical TBM and future stake president) told me I must have provoked him in some way, and that I should repent for sexually attracting a priesthood holder and returned missionary. I insisted I was innocent, and he proceeded to tell me that perhaps the Lord had given my rapist a vision, that I was to be his wife in the next life and this was his way of "marking his territory."...Once again, I saw a professional sexual assault counselor who reiterated over and over that it was not my fault, and lo and behold! I healed.
--The third time was when I became pregnant out of wedlock with my high school sweetheart. This same bishop stared me down coldly as I told him the news about my burgeoning belly, and these are the words he said. "You know, if you look at statistics, you may see a correlation between sexual sinners in the church and their children being born with birth defects and Downs Syndrome." ...This time, I literally said, "What the f*ck are you implying?" He didn't answer, just looked at me knowingly, so I walked away and refused to speak to him.
What stories can you tell of brilliant church leaders attempting to meddle in areas they are not professionally trained to advise on? Perhaps one of you was once in this position of having to "counsel" someone you didn't feel adequate to handle.