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Posted by: turnonthelights ( )
Date: May 20, 2012 11:49PM

I didn't realize until a few years ago when a recent relative passed away that the church buries their dead in those awful temple outfits. I was pretty surprized and creeped out. Especially after learning that the relatives are the ones that go to the funeral home and dress them up personally. I would be horrified to dress my dead naked mother in her garments and temple clothes. It is so incredibly morbid and I think the church likes to see it as a sacred honor. My dad recently had to dress his father in the temple clothes to prepare him for burial. He hasn't talked about it but I am sure that it was an unpleasant experience.

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Posted by: forbiddencokedrinker ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 12:00AM

You know the Patriot Riders, the bikers who follow the WBC nut jobs to keep them from disturbing soldier funerals? Can we organize an atheist version of that, who will show up at our funerals, and keep our TBM relatives from dressing us up in those disgusting temple clothes?

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Posted by: Lethbridge Reprobate ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 12:25AM

Both my parents were dressed in the MORG Glad Rags by people with recommends (not thier 2 sons...we're unworthy don't ya know!)

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Posted by: ambivalent exmo ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 01:35AM

I told Mr ambivalentmo
that I will haunt him forever if I die
and he allows my tbm family
dress me in temple clothes for my funeral.

Can I specify in my will
that my funeral NOT be held in a morg church
and no temple clothing allowed?

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Posted by: dk ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 04:30AM

What if you don't own any temple clothes? Will your family buy you some? And does the dead person have to have a temple recommend to be buried in them?

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Posted by: ambivalent exmo ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 04:34AM

My grandpa had left the church entirely, without resigning.
My father made sure grandpa was dressed in temple clothing, just in case.

My grandpa must have rolled over in his grave......

No temple recommend needed....

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/21/2012 04:35AM by ambivalent exmo.

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Posted by: forbiddencokedrinker ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 09:33AM

I've seen them dress up a person they excommunicated for being child predator. The church believes that all ordinances are restored to a fallen member upon death.

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Posted by: CA girl ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 11:09AM

Last year a friend of mine died and had no family still living - only distant relatives who weren't LDS. The church had assigned a couple of welfare missionaries months earlier to help her deal with her dying mother, who my friend had cared for for many years. When it came time to arrange my friend's funeral, (she died only a few months after her mom died) we couldn't find her temple clothes so the welfare missionaries went out and bought her a new set to be buried in.

Mormons will bury you in temple clothes if they can get away with it.

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Posted by: eskimogirlfriend ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 05:11AM

My grandpa had been inactive my entire life. At his funeral he was dressed in his temple clothes, except for the hat. Just before they closed the lid after the viewing, my dad put that stupid ass bakers cap on my poor sweet dead grandfather. I was pretty upset and creeped out. :( I seriously doubt that's what grandpa would have wanted.

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Posted by: cludgie ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 09:26AM

I think it's only so much Freemasonry at the root of it. Masons bury their dead in whatever hats, robes, and aprons that they earn during their Masonic years. Mormons used to refer to the temple as "True Masonry," and I'm sure that the tradition started way back then.

Know what's really weird? If the dead person was horribly mutilated or burned beyond recognition and such, they just have the funeral people lay the robes inside the casket on the outside of the body bag. Now THAT's weird, I think. The practice makes no sense at all.

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Posted by: forbiddencokedrinker ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 09:35AM

It's so you can change, since those cheaply made temple clothes will so obviously survive in the ground until the resurrection.

The only bright spot is that archaeologist, far in the future, will someday find perfectly preserved Mormon mummies who were buried in just the right spot, under the right conditions, and assume that everyone in Utah walked around looking like that all the time.

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Posted by: Greyfort ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 09:29AM

I used to freak out thinking that my non-Mormon family wouldn't make sure that I had a Mormon funeral and that my temple attire was on me. Now I freak out at the idea that one of my well-meaning TBM friends might try to make sure it does happen. *shudder*

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Posted by: ava ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 09:30AM

I hate the idea of putting the veil over my mom's face before they close the casket. If my dad goes first, I won't do it, despite her wishes. It's an irrational hangup of mine.

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Posted by: CA girl ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 11:12AM

That was my question - from what I've seen, prior to the final closing of the casket lid someone pulls the veil over the face of the woman deceased. Apparently Mormon women have to spend eternity with their faces covered in shame before God.

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Posted by: kookoo4kokaubeam ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 09:36AM

There is no set church edict or doctrine that requires that members who have been through the temple MUST be buried in their temple clothes. I guess it could qualify under Boyd K Packers "Unwritten Order of Things" but its really more of a cultural thing.

A friend was killed in a very, very bad accident. The family asked to dress him in temple clothes but the mortician was very blunt and said that he very strongly receommended that the family not do that. The family freaked thinking their dead son was somehow not being buried properly and checked with the Stake President. The SP assured them they were fine, that it wasn't an actual ordinance and that if it made them feel better they could have the mortician place a packet with the clothes into the casket.

Ewww, this is kind of a creepy topic.

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Posted by: RPackham ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 10:22AM

kookoo4kokaubeam Wrote:
> There is no set church edict or doctrine that requires that members who have been through the temple MUST be buried in their temple clothes.

Not correct. It is in the Church Handbook:

"Where possible, endowed members should be buried in temple clothing when they die. Where cultural traditions or burial practices make this inappropriate or difficult, the clothing may be folded and placed next to the body in the casket." p 81, 2006 edition

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Posted by: kookoo4kokaubeam ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 11:12AM

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Posted by: shannon ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 10:59AM

I was a convert of more than a decade living in Florida. I had never been to a Mormon funeral. I was called as a counselor in the Relief Society Presidency.

The RS Prez invited me over to her house one afternoon for a couple of hours of orientation. At one point, she pulls out some official-looking book and starts quoting.

Bottom line: Dead, endowed Mormons are buried in garments and Temple clothing. Since none of the morticians in this area are endowed, the family members must dress the corpse in the ceremonial burial clothes.

When family members are not "worthy" to perform the sacred ritual, then the RS Presidency dresses the naked, dead sister - top to bottom. I was ***horrified.***

There were a LOT of little old ladies in our ward who were lone converts and had been to the Temple. To further complicate things, the RS Prez and her Bishop-husband were leaving soon for an extended trip out West.

I lived in utter fear for the next 2 weeks that some poor, elderly sister in the ward would kick and there'd be nobody running the show but me. As much as I "loved the gospel" and "magnified my callings" . . . that was one task that I just don't think I could have done. I was sick to my stomach for days.

Absolutely freaking morbid!


Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/21/2012 03:43PM by shannon.

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Posted by: rationalguy ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 11:30AM

My will is going to have a request not to dress me in that sh*t. I hope my TBM family will comply, but I havr my doubts.

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Posted by: SusieQ#1 ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 12:27PM

One of the most fascinating rituals, in my view, is how different groups honor their dead. There are elaborate rituals that must be carried out in exactness.

Yes, Mormons do the same thing. There is special burial clothes for the deceased that can only be put on by someone with a temple recommend. It's considered an honor to dress the deceased.

The LDS are so adamant about it, they will take it upon themselves to make sure the body is properly attired in the temple garb even if the relatives want something else. (Happened to me with my mother - even lying about the appointment time and getting there ahead of me - RS women on a mission!!!)
That is now another way the "lying for the Lord" system works.
Fortunately, I didn't care about that, mother probably wanted that anyhow. But I did put on her makeup and comb her hair. (Smelled like formaldehyde (?) for days! ) What really annoyed my sister was the bill they sent for the clothes! She refused to pay it, of course!

If it's a Mormon funeral, and the person had been to the temple at any point in their life, they will dress them in the temple burial clothes.

Maybe rutabaga will chime in here and give some of his experiences in the funeral home business!

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Posted by: jan ( )
Date: May 21, 2012 01:51PM

My mother's two closest lady friends and I dressed her. She was a very modest person and I felt she would have been mortified to have strangers dressing her (I know, the logic fails when you realize that strangers embalmed her and washed her body, but logic wasn't high on my agenda just then).

I felt it was the final act of service I could provide to this amazing woman and it remains one of my most previous memories.

My mother was demented and quite childlike in her last years. I took her shopping once for underwear (not garments), expecting to pick up a couple of packages of white cotton granny panties. She saw a display of panties printed with colorful flowers and insisted on them. So I buried my mother in a white dress, bra, full slip and purple-pansy panties.

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