I am no longer a member of the church, but my wifes sister got pregnant out of wedlock... Was going to let one sister adopt the baby. She changed her mind and gave it to another sister who was the better 'temple worthy' member of the family.. Now noe of the family is talking.. It is the craziest thing I've ever seen.
I think it is awful how father's aren't given any rights to their children. I think they get a raw deal on custody in divorces a lot too. I think this article exaggerates the negative impacts of adoption though. I just don't see evidence that adopted kids have any more problems than kids raised in other types of homes. The article mainly relied on emails they get at this website. There are of course going to be good and bad experiences in both. In my personal case I am quite happy being adopted and never had any angst or depression about it. And my birthmother seemed very happy when I met her and was able to finish college and get married later in life which may have been more difficult to do while trying to raise a kid. I am also glad now that I have left the church that I was raised by two converts, one of whom is inactive and doesn't talk about religion much and one who is a TBM but has been pretty cool about me leaving and seems mainly concerned that I am happy. All of my cousins and aunts and uncles are non-religious. If I was raised by my birthmother I would be in a multigenerational Mormon family with TBMs all around. My brother is also adopted and is of a different race than the rest of the family. In today's culture I think that matters less and less. He had a difficult time growing up and didn't graduate from high school and made some poor choices which I think my parents felt guilty about and we thought maybe it had to do with him feeling different. After meeting his birth family though I don't think he would have had any less trouble with them. In fact it is highly likely he would have spent some time in jail by this point in his life.