I have noticed a lot recently that quite a few of my friends on Facebook have names that insinuate that they are using the account as a couple/family. I also know that these "friends" are all TBM. The names are something like "johnandjane doe" or "the doefam" or something similar. Is this something that is becoming more and more prominent in TBM couples/families, or is there stuff like this on Facebook outside of the morg? It has been bugging me for a while. Thanks for your feedback.

My TBM sister won't set up her own email account.
Everything I write to her is to her husbands email.

Bugs the crap out of me. I never send her anything that is just for her.

I don't understand this. Is it a way for couples to monitor each other? A trust issue? I wonder.

I have three friends that have joint accounts. Two of them are TBM's and one of them is an atheist, that was never a TBM.

I believe that is standard Mo advice for the safety of children and for the prevention of affairs.

I may be wrong.

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Hubby and I are to lazy to have separate accounts....
* hangs head in shame*

eta: Hubby rarely uses FB, except to post sports stuff, so its all good. I only use it to post sarcastic comments and stake prez. paternosters posts. ( I always have to remind everyone what satire is...gets old...)



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It's when you have a gender specific problem I would not feel ok sending it to a newlywed/hitched/playing house couple. I would be miffed if a close friend's new hubby/bf/significant other read a very personal message/email.

On another hand, I would have no problem with my sister and her wife reading a private and personal email in a shared account because I trust them both.

Unfortunatly its not just TBMs. Its a control/ lack of trust issue IMO. So he can monitor all of my activities then get a secret account for himself that says hes single. GRRRRRRRR

I've seen a few non-Mormon couples do this. I can definitely see how LDS couples might gravitate towards this, however.

In other words, it is not a Mormon thing.

I haven't really seen any couples, TBM or nevermo who have joint Facebook accounts. Then again, most married couples I've known trust each other enough to have separate e-mail and Facebook accounts. One of the reasons my ex is my ex is that he tried to hack into my e-mail account as an attempt to control me by reading my e-mails.

I've seen two: one TBM, one atheist nevermo. I think joint account is fine. They both typically just post family related stuff -- kids pictures etc. They all have their personal emails outside the FB but decided to have one FB page for family update.

In some cases it can be a lack of trust, in others it just means those are not personal accounts but family accounts and that's fine with me.

I've seen a few friends of friends on FB that have the combined name on the account and they're all nevermo.

It's against fb policy to do it. And mormons are the only ones doing it on my friends list.

I've seen non LDS do it, but all the LDS couples I know share FB, period. I find it a little creepy--but then, the one piece of advice my mom gave me about marriage was to always have my own checking account and my own credit card. Just in case I might need them. She was married 45 years--death parted my parents. So far, I've been married 32 years. But share FB? That's not part of the deal anymore than joint checking or using the same toothbrush.



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I have two couples, not LDS, who do this on Facebook and with emails. To work out which one is writing, you have to decipher the language as you read.

I know one couple (non no) that does it. I don't think it's a matter of trust, but just the opposite. Neither has anything to hide. It's a relatively small town, they know all the same people, so one account is simpler than two, when they would both probably read anything that was posted on just one wall if they had separate accounts and someone posted on only one wall (rather than both).

None of the LDS couples I know (not that many other than relatives) do it.

So many of the people I knew in my last ward have a husband and wife joint account. I believe this is against facebook rules, actually.

A fanatical TBM "friend" that I haven't talked to in years recently made a joint account for her and her husband, and then added people from her single account to switch everyone over to her joint account permanently. Then she deleted her single account. I didn't make the cut, lol.

My abusive BIL won't allow my sister to have a facebook page anymore, because we were using it as a back channel communication with her, after he ordered her to stop talking to us.

I have a TBM friend and a nevermo friend who does this. I don't know if it's just the Mormons.

I've seen plenty of nevermos with joint e-mail accounts.

Actually, I've considered that very idea for if I ever settle down with someone. Not as a matter of trust, since I imagine we'd also have our own separate accounts for any individual stuff, but as a practical way to keep family things like maintenance bills, tax stuff, receipts, invitations, any joint banking info, etc. in a place that's easily accessible by both parties.