I have not emailed my resignation yet. I have missed 4 wks of church after I talked with him about "me have a calling already". Namely working with the fringe of everything population.

He said I would be pleasantly surprized to know how many people have been asking about me.
I said...well...you don't know what you got till it's gone

He said--- My wife and I would like to come over so I could apologize in person
I said.... I already accepted your apology and would prefer you spent your time with your wife and kids. Then a small tirade about how much time he spends away from them. I told him I have been researching on the internet and...sweet Bishop your church is a cult. I inquired about the mall.
I said...and please no love bombing or I will tell them the truth. Do not send anyone to me. I am bad for the church machine right now.

very interesting. I flat turned him and his wife down.
He said... well maybe we will see each other in the future.

Ya sure

Thanks be to this site!!!!

A little trick I learned from an old boss: Put your hand up when you're saying NO.

Its amazing how empowering it is to reclaim one's own boundaries. Well done. Heroic!

He said... well maybe we will see each other in the future.


"No bishop, not in this life or the next ..."

Being bad for the church machine is a good way to have them leave you alone.

Honesty is best, even if they don't know how to listen. When I got called to teach Gospel Essentials just a week after I told the bishop that Joseph Smith was a liar and charlatan, I told him that apparently he didn't understand what I said. So I proceeded to tell him that not only am I not coming to church any more but my wife has instructions to not have my funeral at a Mormon church. That he understood.

Love it....no funeral in a Mormon church. And how about the undies...don't they bury you in those? Gross.

Way to go....have to ask...what did he say about the Mall?

Thxs all. It was a very important call to me and I have spent a bunch of time going over it.

I have alot of respect for my Bishop. I feel he is a good man with a well meaning heart.

He actually opened the conversation with inviting me to his house for ice cream. He said he was having a small group of people over and they would love to have me. He mentioned the names of the ladies I had gotten along with best.

I had only become active again after 20+ years in Jan after a 5 day hospital day. I found what ward online and just showed up at the meeting cold.
I always dressed Mormon appropriate.. black skirt, low heels, not too flashy colored blouse with all tattoos covered from sight. I have not drank in years and was also tobacco free at the time. Perfect (lol).
He and his wife have been to my home which is a small cottage behind my sons house. Son is baptized, church inactive, Navy fully disabled (35 yrs old), married with 3 kids.

By the ending of our conversation Bishop had let me know he was a convert. That was very major imo. Then he asked if he and his wife could drop by purely socially (yes, he said that) I did politely refuse that also.

However, after carefull review, I feel he might of related to the few points I brought up. I am very glad I did not attack anyone. Well, I did say I had lost my testimony of Joseph Smith and cited some facts I learned on here. But I was careful not to put anyone down who is in the ward. Principles before personalities. I also mentioned the money that the church plays with and that it seemed more of a business for profit than an extension of christlike behavior.

Who knows. Time will tell. Maybe I will email him some links. For him to try to relate to me by saying he is a convert with his birth side relatives not in the church... was major I think.

I think it went well. Glad I did it...thxs for the support