Date: April 16, 2012 01:16AM
Utah has the highest internet porn rate in the nation. Porn is a problem for active members because their sexuality has been so twisted and guilted by the church that they have to take what they can get however they can get it. They can't just have a normal, healthy relationship with a woman - and yes, that includes appreciating a woman's body now and again.
So I guess the answer to a Mormon who says something like that is "Well, I can see why you would think that because Mormons are some of the biggest users of porn in the nation so probably most men you know are into it but I'm not one of them. Actually, I left to get away from porn addicts, not to become one."
"That's ridiculous. Mormons are some of the biggest users of porn in the nation. If I wanted to look at porn, I'd STAY Mormon, I wouldn't leave."
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/16/2012 01:30AM by CA girl.
Date: April 16, 2012 02:42AM
This is, to me, perhaps the most infuriating thing about Mormonism. If you leave, or even just doubt some of the doctrine, it is because you are weak and are committing some sort of sin that you need to confess to.
Looking back at everything I've lost by leaving Mormonism (my job, good relationship with my family, social structure), if it had been a simple matter of wanting to watch porn or drink alcohol, it would have been trivial for me to just do that stuff and still pretend to be a good Mormon.
It doesn't take much to hide sin, but hiding complete disbelief is much, much harder.
Date: April 16, 2012 03:51AM
First of all, let me say: there is absolutely no way my husband is into porn. Unless you are refering to "chicken porn" or "ham radio porn."
("Chicken porn" is pictures of hens, roosters, baby chicks, chicken coops, etc. And oh -- heaven forbid -- those birds are almost ALWAYS nekked, except for a few strategically placed feathers! LOL!).
My husband two loves are his chickens and his ham radio station. He'd rather DX with somebody halfway across the world in morse code than fire up his six year old computer.
Having established that, I have to tell you folks, if church officials ever asked me if my husband views porn the way that Aaron86's wife was asked, my response would be:
"No, my husband isn't into porn. But tell me, how many hours a week do YOU spend watching porn?"
Date: April 16, 2012 10:18AM
This came from the original post...
Re: DW meeting with SP & Bishop at same time...
Here's the basic problem:
Supposedly, God runs the Mormon Church through Direct Revelation. Therefore: The church simply HAS TO BE TRUE. IT IS PERFECT BECAUSE GOD IS PERFECT!
For that reason -- any problems that arise must be the MEMBER'S fault. You can't blame God!
So, who else is there?
That's why all the church's problems are absorbed by the membership. Remember the phrase "God's church is perfect, but He only has imperfect people to run it." For this reason, Mormon members end up "atoning" for the sins of their fraudulent religion -- a religion started by sexual predators and sanctimonious, greedy, con men.
Mormonism is a religion that has become overly-abundant with "problems" that now need such member "explanations".
So, everything turns back on the membership. They become sacrificed to maintain the perfection of the church.
When a marriage is in trouble because one spouse needs to be deeply honest about their feelings and discoveries, the church's response is that the spouse must have a "moral problem". How many times have we seen this?
The church creates "guilty victims" in order to save itself!
That's why the following was reported in this post:
"They also asked her about porn; she reassured them -- whether they believed it or not -- that that was not my reason for leaving."
That's also why: "We apostates leave the church, but we won't leave it alone." We are tired of the church calling us immoral, and dishonest, and unrighteous -- when, in fact, it is the Mormon Church ITSELF that is the fraudulent, guilty party!
Every day of the week family and friends become divided by the church, so that the church can remain "true".
We are fighting back for a reason.
It's similar to Parental Abuse.
(Also see; "No Testimony, what's wrong with you" in Short Topics)