I made the comment to my wife today about how crazy some people are to think polygamy would come back and, even if it did, I don't think most men would join the church just to participate. Then I said ... "I wouldn't even come back if polygamy was on the table" ... She then jumped all over me accusing me of secretly wanting to engage in polygamy. It quickly went down hill from there. The whole thing had a surreal feel to it -- a religion set up by a pedophile con man was being thrown in my face and I was suddenly the horny toad wanting to nail the 20 year old down the street! Unbelievable!!!!!

Bottom line: I'm pissed and I'm starting to think my marriage has a 50/50 chance of surviving 2 years. It makes me sad that it has come to this.

Of course you considered polygamy as a believer. The expansion of your Kingdom, by following the JS/BY/JT priesthood plan is very important and part of the track to godhood. God practices it, and so did Jesus (OP), and when we have Eternal perspective we will all understand how important it is.

Sorry, Bro. Being married in and of itself is tough, blend a in batshit crazy religion and it's almost impossible.

Just to let you know, good things turn out sometimes. My wife told me that if I wasn't in the church, she saw no need to stay in the marriage. One day, she finally asked me the facts, and I thinking I had nothing to lose, told her straight up. I was sure that she would leave me, but instead she left her garments that very night and hasn't looked back.

Life has never been sweeter. I wish you the best.

oy! you got lucky! Treat her well, she's one in a million.

Yes, I did. I'm not the perfect husband, but so glad she broke away with me. She smart and sexy, I'm very lucky I admit.

Wow- great story. If only it could happen to all in a believer/nonbeliever marriage.

You can thank JS & BY for all that.

Tell her one reason you cannot be Mormon is because you would never want to share yourself with other women besides her no matter how many angels with flaming swords threatened you. :-)

Tell her you find it disturbing that men are sealed to multiple women and all that implies- and it's right there in the church temple sealing records.

Tell her you love her too much to participate in a church that ever taught that...in the past or in the future.

Tell her if you had been JS, you would have said no to God if asked to do something so hurtful to women.

Then she will be in the situation where she has to appreciate you picked her over the religion while at the same time having to explain to herself why she would want you to participate in a church that intends to have that teaching in an afterlife.

Good luck. Most women are very uncomfortable with this topic. Use it to your advantage the best you can.

Your wife's insecurity is speaking that she flashed on that thoughtless comment. Let me rephrase...

"I wouldn't go back even if (delicious) polygamy was on that table."

That's what she heard and why she reacted. Your conclusion doesn't fit because a woman who is upset that you might want other women is still interested in keeping YOU, silly.

Take dagny's advice. You are far too pessimistic for someone who has the upper hand. You have truth on your side, love/sex on your side, children? maybe on your side.

And you're a good guy. Why would she give you up?

Anagrammy

thanks anagrammy and dagny ... I needed that. I am too pessimistic. Maybe I just need to double up on being a good dad / husband and drop ANY discussion of religion. I have been dealt a good hand ... I just need to keep my cool.

What DID you mean when you told her that?

ok sdee, I'll bite:

I don't have a problem with polygamy, polyandry, swinging, LGBT marriages, group marriages, open marriages, etc. etc.

That is ... I don't have a problem with YOU doing all of the above ... only if it's among consenting adults and no one is physically abused or emotionally manipulated (and they are free to leave the marriage arrangement when they want with sufficient legal protection)

Religious polygamy does not meet this standard. Throw in a flaming sword, a little guarantee of celestial bliss, and any pedophile will have a field day.

and like anagrammy hinted, even though, as a man, I'm biologically wired to have sex with as many women as would be willing (probably not a large number!), I would not do that EVEN IF THE PROPHET ASKED ME TO.

So please, don't start wagging the finger at me ... I have my wife for that.

Maybe her (over)reaction was actually more about you popping her little bubble of hope that you will ever return. It's a necessary step and a good sign that you are still together now. She maybe getting closer than you think. Hang in there!

That's funny because if they did bring polygamy back I think I would go back, but only if my husband promised to get a second wife! I can see all the benefits of having a sister wife and for me, the benefits out weigh the negatives. With that said 3 to 5 wife's is a good number, 33, not so good.It all depends on your personal marriage. I never would have married any of the big wigs though, ugh gross.

Also important to note, I would of course be the first wife, and no fatties.

You'd really WANT a "sister wife" ot three? You want to be a possession, one of many, part of a herd? Don't you think you're entitled to a whole man, not just one-third or one-half of one?

Just perfuzzled a bit...

Your [Unmarried and Ever so Available]Pal,
Reggie
The StalkerDog™


P.S. Anybody got a girl doggie that might be lookin for a boyfriend?

Sorry I am still finding out these "precious" truths.. and I am really confused if Anyone would help me with this I would appreciate it, what on the world do you mean there's a belief of polygamy coming back?

it's nothing official ... officially the church downplays polygamy in its effort to look normal. but you can argue since day one (1890), some Mormons have been hoping and praying it would come back. As shown by my BIL's blessing, for some people it's bubbling on the surface.

If your wife is that suspicious, maybe she's looking for an out....just sayin'....

tell your DW to RELAX; I've got my dibs on Cheryl Tiegs and all the other hotties (close to my age, anyway).
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