I'm getting my baby baptized my husbands religion (catholic) and my mormon family is giving me so much drama over it. I asked why they can't just open their minds a bit and be happy for him. I have a lot of issues with mormons but i go to my nieces and nephews 8 year old baptisms.

Jenn--

That's a tough one. Have you and your husband decided together that you will participate in the Catholic faith as a family? If so, would it help to calmly but firmly tell your family that you and your husband seek spiritual unity (Something they should understand) and have chosen this path? You might also point out that you've been supportive of your LDS family's choices; they need to respect that in turn.

In the end, you may have to distance yourself from your family for a time. Best wishes to you.

As my sainted father used to say, "To Hell with 'em!"

As Katherine Hepburn used to say, "Please yourself, that way at least one person will be happy."

I say, "Do what you want if you're over 21, as long as its not illegal, immoral or makes you fat."

I like your quote best but Katherine Hepburn's is close second.

Fat's Ok too :)

I'm very sorry you're not being supported. But never the less, congratulations on this big event for your family. I hope the day is lovely.

Tell them in no uncertain terms they have no business telling you how to raise your child, period.

Repeat this every single time they try and every time they say "but..." after you say it. Do not engage them, make it clear, there will be no discussion on this issue.

say six words to them:

"Eleventh Article of Faith. LIVE IT!"

remind me of the 11th article of faith

http://lds.about.com/library/bl/primary/aa_articles_of_faith_11.htm

We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.

Jenn....this is between you and your hubby. Mormons do it to nonmormons all the time. In fact when my convert daughter had her son's blessing, I was not even invited and did not know about it. Your family should think about that.

Again...this is not about THEM. It is something you have chosen for your child by discussing it between yourselves. Are his parents active Catholics? Did you ever become Catholic? Guess that is not necessary. I know a girl who had her baby baptised Catholic 2 yrs. ago...she is Methodist and the DAD is Catholic. Well her sister is the Godmother - not Catholic...like her.... and the Godfather IS Catholic. They have some rule that one of them must be Catholic. That's okay. I think it is neat.

Enjoy the day and don't think of your parents and their rantings. Don't allow them to ruin your day with your child.

Tell them very nicely that you're sure they'll get over it.

Congratulations on your sweet new baby.

Don't let someone ruin the day. They have no understanding, and worse yet, don't want any. They just want you to do things their way. Their lack of respect is horrible.

I agree with the others. Tell them you understand that this is not what they would have chosen, but it your child and your life and if they want to be a part of the christening, not to mention the baby's life, they need to respect your choices. In return you will respect theirs. If they can't handle it, don't invite them and keep your distance until they can behave.You do not need this nonsense

i had my little girl baptized a couple years ago. they weren't so bad then but my mama is on a downward spiral.

just something I was happy about or something I achieved. They are usually dismissive, dour, disapproving, openly jealous, blank, etc. Something is wrong with a lot of them. Add another religion to that, not to mention the one some LD$ consider the "great and abominable church", and only the more liberal-minded LD$ would be happy for you. Don't let them guilt you or ruin the occasion.

There is only one answer that will shut a Mormon up. It's a one-size-fits-all and always works because it uses their lingo and their argument:

I took a long talk and (prayed/meditated/thought) about this issue. I wanted certainty that this was the right decision for MY (child/life/marriage/job/?) and I received it. I know you Mormons believe in the power of such a personal experience and I ask that you respect mine.

Congratulations on your baby and don't let the naysayers cloud this wonderful day.


Anagrammy

+1

Use they own illogic against them.

I've fasted and prayed and God has revealed to me that this is what is best for my child and family.

Repeat as often as necessary.

Try to remember this is about YOUR child and family. So this is YOUR choice to make. You need to do what is best for your child, other children, yourself, and husband.

Other non-immedidate family members, that belong to the mormon faith, will always try to make you feel guilty for not doing things their way. ALWAYS! You will never feel bad for doing things the way you feel is best for your family. However, your mom or sister, at a later date, may feel bad for not attending your special day with your family. But you will never feel wrong for having followed thru.

Enjoy what is rightfully yours to celebrate.

Put on your big girl thongs and keep your family out of your marriage.
Allowing that much interference by in-laws is not healthy and will not end well.

Refuse to engage in any more endless discussions and just tell them that you and your husband's decisions are none of their business.

Religious and political affiliations are private choices, you do not owe your family of origin any further explanations.



Catholic baptism is a beautiful ceremony

Catholic baptism is a beautiful ceremony, btw. Enjoy it.

As adults and as Americans, you have the right to participate in a any religious rite you chose. Or none.

That fact is always hard to accept for Mormons.

( Sorry, this disconnected from my earlier post ).

on them (their presence was not necessary) and it was decided that all murmurers were to be disfellowshipped from your company for the period of one year.

And then do it for real... put it on the calendar and give them the silent treatment for a full year.

If anyone comes around, make sure that you remind the that, "You know you have been disfellowshipped for murmuring against my baby's baptism... you need to be more obedient to that ruling... now I'm going to show some mercy temporarily, so... what is it that you want and make it snappy since I don't like bending the rules on disciplinary council rulings!"

It'll send a chilling message, but in the future it won't be such a big deal, because you'll all be able to think back on it... Hey, remember 2012? Yeah, that was the year we got disfellowshipped for murmurring! Yeah, lets not go down that road again.



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