If you are a shy person who would not normally make it as a mormon,are you judged biasedly as a sinner by Mormons?
To be a mormon in any successful way, you have to be a potential marketing tool like the ones used in those I am mormon ads.If youa re a privatye person who does not like the spotlight,or would not be suitable for those ads,you are a living peice of rubbish according to my experience.

Have any of you been trated by biasedly by Mormon or the church as a whole because you do not make the mormon personality type?

TSCC rewards people who put on a good show i.e. the extroverted entertainer types. They want members to have a certain image, and do not value individuality.

Yep -- If you can see the big picture and you're a thinker, you probably won't last long.

I haven't ever seen that trait :punished: with judgment as a sinner.

However, in the back of people's minds will be such 'wisdom' as "Don't hide your light".

You see, cliches apply as to the wisdom of the person who they came to the mind of.



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Like my mother, I am a super-introvert. But where she was given a pass (too sick for the church meetings, etc), I was derided and excoriated for my shyness. Eventually I was diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, but not till I was 39 years old! Before that I was considered a slacker and a sinner by my evil Mormon father. I was ashamed of myself, and that is my war cry against the Empire of Mormonism.

Wondering if I could visit you some time in the future. Perhaps DH and I could drive to your home or to a coffe shop or bar for a chat. No pressure, just a thought.

email me at donalddbagley@yahoo.com

I get pretty nervous in public, but I have Klonopin to help.

People like us

If you are a thinker, and always come up with inconvenient questions, then they don't like that. No matter how honest your desire for truth, and no matter how much you want to believe, but need this question answered in a rational way, they can't come up with a real answer, no do they appreciate you sharing your doubts.

It views introverts as a liability since they're not good missionaries and public speakers and because they don't enjoy unannounced guests or doing their hometeaching and visiting teaching assignments.

My mormon inlaws were the first people to think that my shyness is "weird".

Yes! My in-laws (TBM) used to complain that I was not out-going like their perfect daughters. & When I did speak, they made fun of my voice saying it was too 'high'.

Oh and the TBM inlaws conplained that I read too many books.

The OP wrote something I could have written. Some people like this are diagnosed with Dependent Personality Disorder. They are so unassertive that they become magnets for abuse, and they have incredible tolerance for abuse. When divergence from the norm is seen as evidence of sin, the abusers justify themselves.

Start thinking for yourself, and standing up for yourself. Exit from that social environment. It works.



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Well, we know they don't like feminists. What kind of personality produces a feminist? I have no idea, but they don't like it. They've stipulated that, and proven it by publicly excommunicating several.

We know they don't like intellectuals. I have no idea what kind of personality produces an intellectual, but we know that Mormon & Co. don't like them. They've stipulated that, and proven it by publicly excommunicating several.

Homosexuals are an enemy of the church, so they don't like them, but I'm not sure that that qualifies as a "personality type."

Yes, they don't like people who are honest.

My mother in law is painfully shy. Before she was baptised as a convert she told them the only way I will be a convert and be baptised is if I don't have to speak. They honored the request. She is temple worthy and never spoken in church in any way or given any testimonies.

they don't like people who question.

"pray, pay, and obey" is not good enough for me. bye mormonism!

In mormonism Introversion is an affliction to be overcome.

I think this is the most accurate response to the question. I don't think the church thinks of introverts or thinkers as a threat, but rather fail to realize that such traits are normal and and people with it just need different forms of stimulation. I guess this is not surprising in an organization where the ideal is the individual serving the institution, rather than the other way around.

They fear the quiet observer. They never know what that person is thinking, so they try to mind-read. Such a person might be hiding and biding her* time. When such a person reaches the peak of what she can tolerate, all hell breaks loose.


* generally



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It's the threat to leadership - an extrovert, confident, independent, free thinker, someone who questions everything.

I always thought that arrogance and rudeness were the kind of person that made good mormons.

I'm quite shy, but my wife is very shy. She probably does have a social anxiety disorder, while I just feel pushed outside of my comfort zone. Even as a believer, I hated attending church due in a large part to feeling uncomfortable with being asked to pray etc; my wife, as a TBM, is virtually inactive today not because she doesn't believe, but because she has such severe anxiety attending church each week and I make it easy for her to not bother going.

Yes, I agree with the OP. We have always been shunned due to not having the right personality, even when we were both believers and fully active.

Once, we had just moved into a new ward where we didn't know anybody. After a month of turning up 5 minutes late and leaving straight after the closing prayer of the final class, the Bishop finally caught up with us and summoned us into his office. He was reasonably friendly, and asked us about our background / current situation etc (presumably seeing if we were "calling material") but then towards the end of the conversation he said something we both found odd - he told us that most of the people in the ward had been around here for a very long time; a few families have three or four generations active in the ward. He said they were a friendly lot, but probably wouldn't go out of their way to fellowship us, and that it was our responsibility to make sure we got to know everybody and got ourselves involved. We needed to make the effort, because they wouldn't bother.

As the weeks and months went on, we never did "make the effort" with everybody else. On the few occasions we were even spoken to, they often said things like "it's a shame you didn't move to such-and-such-a-town, they really need a young couple like you!" Needless to say, we stopped attending after a while. We were clearly surpless to their requirements.



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I came by here about 4 years ago and there was a thread where people posting here put down their Meyer's Briggs personality type. Despite that certain personality types were in the minority-usually around 1 percent, eg INTP, those personalities showed up here with amazing frequency. Males here seemed to possess more of the rare types as well. It is not hard to see why; the introverted thinking types have less "sheep-like" tendency and usually seek to actually verify facts before being hopelessly sold. It is just a matter of time until a thinking person questions Mormonism's superficiality.

Yeah, they do. Their religious culture (in Utah County, anyways) breeds conformity. They shun people with independent ideas and individual personalities.

Those who use their brain...to think.

After reading this thread, it has become very clear why I never fit in, and never will.

I am basically shy. I can become extroverted in order to protect myself or someone else. I mind my own business and expect others to do the same. I detest people dropping in on me. There are only 4 people on the planet that I don't mind if they drop in unannounced.

I ask a lot of questions, usually i'm asking the people who like to flaunt there superior knowledge and righteousness. That would be bish, sp, ga's, rsp' and the like.

I'm creative and artistic.

I like myself just fine, and am not interested in putting on an act for anyone. I'm not a butt kisser. I'm not impressed by status.
I'm hopeless as far as mo'ism goes.

I think mormons are extremely uncomfortable with anyone who's source of self esteem comes from something other than the church.

To their thinking, every accomplishment and growth in your life pales in comparison to how well you fulfill your callings. Anything else you do is discounted.

For the last year before the light went on and I realized the church was a lie, I felt a disconnect and a separation. Looking back, this was because I had come to a cross roads where I had to choose between being who I really was and who I needed to be to be part of the church matrix.

Being myself stopped me from being liked by other mormons and I felt it. It was because I liked myself more than the church. I chose myself. They sense it. They know it. And, they don't like it.

I just couldn't dislike myself for one more minute. So for me, I have to agree with many above who said INDIVIDUALITY.

yeah. women like me. The ultra-righteous controlling priesthood holders HATED me. I am sexy, vivacious, flirty, smart, witty, and unabashed on calling out behavior I think is inappropriate (like trying to control a woman through "divine revelation"). I had a bishop say, "I wish you would have gone through the temple, so I could just ex-communicate you, instead of having you here on my rolls." I was 19.