Posted by:
melissa3839
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Date: November 19, 2010 11:10PM
Well, that foster mom still makes me sick.
I mean think about what this is doing to the child. He comes to America and is adopted by an American Mormon family. Then he's treated like this...
His real parents may have been too poor or irrisponsible to care for him, they may have been druggies, or abusive, they may have died! Regardless, can you imagine comming from any of those situations, to being moved to a new country and being treated like this? Poor little guy.
The answer is LOVE. He obviously just wants attention. You don't just punish, punish, punish, without asking more quesitons or thinking about it. The mother was punishing him BEFORE disecting the situation. Or rather, WHILE disecting it. You have to get to the bottom of what's going on, and look past the tip of your nose. For example:
Obviously, from the conversation that took place, the school has some kind of "good colored card / bad colored card" reward system for behavior. The boy got in a fight in school with another boy, for "playing with someone else". Sounds like a jealous buddy. So the boy got in trouble for fighting. Then was given a "bad color card" for the behavior. He responded by stealing a "good color card". Ok....
Well, lets look at the fairness of the situation here. While being questioned as to why he got in a fight with the other boy, he said, "For playing with someone else". If another boy started a fight with him for playing with a different kid, and he defended himself-- is that his fault? No. Then he gets a bad color card for it. Also not fair. Naturally, he would feel like he didn't deserve that. Well so would I! So he "stole" a good color card, probably in the hopes of replacing the bad on in whatever display unit they cards were placed on. Which I really find more funny or an act of vengence agaisnt the teacher, than anything else. But he got in trouble for that too.
He didn't want to admit the card situation to his obviously abusive Foster mom, because he was scared of her. So he lied about what he did. Then he gets yelled at, hot sauce, and a cold shower-- FOR BEING TOO AFRAID TO TELL THE THRUTH. Well... If you're going to demand that people always tell you the truth, then how about you NOT act like a psycho when they do? Maybe then, they won't lie to you so much.
I'm all for adults working together to correct bad behavior within REASON. But sometimes the TEACHER is wrong. If it were my child, I would go back to the school and ask the teacher why she was punishing my son for defending himslef against a jealous buddy. I wouldn't just punish the kid, without thinking about where he is comming from emotionally, or getting to the bottom of it.
No, you shouldn't be fighting in school. But if somebody comes after you first, you have the right to defend yourself.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 11/19/2010 11:14PM by melissa3839.