Posted by:
ivy
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Date: November 04, 2010 09:28PM
Hi again... So I've posted here a couple times before! I'm not Mormon, have no Mormon connections, but my boyfriend is TBM. Being previously clueless about his faith (although I knew a little. Mormonism is frowned upon in my town) has gotten me completely addicted to this forum. He's talking a lot about his mission and though I try to be encouraging about his religious beliefs, I also ask little innocent clueless questions to try to get him to THINK about it. Example:
We're watching Sister Wives and he's visibly disgusted.
ME: Don't they consider themselves Mormon?
HIM: Yeah...
ME: Oh, they pray the same way as you guys! So, do they believe the same stuff as you, just with plural marriage added to it?
HIM: Uhm... I don't know.
ME: Didn't Mormon's in the 1800's practice bigamy but then when they got in trouble for it they changed the belief, and the fundamentalists stayed the same?
HIM: No. ...Well, yeah. But the pioneers practiced bigamy because many women were widowed, so the men were trying to support those women to protect them.
I just try to slip in little questions here and there to try to get him to look at things at a different angle... I'm STILL trying to figure out how to have the whole, 'I can't wait' mission conversation, as well as mustering up the courage to ask the innocent bystander non-Mormon question of, "didn't Joseph Smith kill two guys after he said he was going like a lamb into battle or whatever?" We'll see when I get the balls to do so... If after I drop these little hints and encourage him to research before he blindly agrees with everything the church feeds him and he still believes, that's fine by me, as long as it makes him happy. In my opinion though, part of being faithful to a religion is exploring all of your options and researching angles, not only listening to biased sources. Wish me luck on the mission talk... I'll let you guys know how it goes!