Posted by:
anonny
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Date: July 20, 2011 02:27AM
Right before I left TSCC in the early 2000s I attended a ward that changed boundries due to the huge amount of new houses being built in our area. It totally changed the ward culture.
Prior to the housing boom it had been a sort of rural/old families ward. People practically sat in the same seats each week for years,and certain bedrock families "owned" certain rows(hated that),Kind of a salt-of the-earth ward,the one where people helped each other out of friendship not obligation. One of the older men in the ward had actually donated the land to the church and many of the ward bretheren had worked on constructing the building.
When the boundries were redrawn about 1/2 of the ward moved to a new building and the other 1/2 remained in the old building, with new families being redistricted into the ward. I remained in the old building. It was total Chaos. For a while we had two Gospel Doctrine teachers (one oldie, one newbie) who alternated weeks because neither one wanted to be released. Everyone was upset The new people didn't realize they were sitting in other people's seats(I secretly enjoyed watching those little scenes play out), new people who had more prominent callings in their former ward were now openly glaring at those who held them in this ward. I have to admit that things got so interesting it did prolong my church attendance longer than I had intended. I just had to watch it all play out.My DH had left the church about 18 months prior and I now sat with a friend of mine,(J), who married a non-member (nomo).
Most everyone was trying to figure out who's who (this is most crucial in ward heirarchy) I mean people didn't know who were the haves and who were the have-nots. It didn't take long for cliques to form and ugly ward behavior to begin. There were basically four factions who J and I named:
The McFamilies
The Posse
The Dazed and Confused
The Rest of us
Warning: Generalizations to follow.
The McFamilies:
There were about 5 families in this category.
They'd purchased the new McMansions which now fell into our ward boundries.They had sold their house in the city (where dad now commuted to work 1 1/2 hrs each way),and paid cash for the Mc Mansion. With Dad's city salary in our subrban area and no mortgage payments they were the neuveau riche. In some cases Mom was able to quit her job and stay at home for the first time, others had been SAHMs since the birth of their children, but they were united in their SAHM superiority, for the most part. They lunched ,scheduled playdates for thier kids, and enrolled the kids in every activity time permitted. With Dad having such a long work commute they spent a lot of time in each other's company, and could be heard in church hallways calling out things like "can't wait for the cruise", See you at 'the latest fou-fou restaurant' tonight. They were FAB. They would be condescendingly nice to others, but you couldn't join their clique. And some people actually wanted to.
Whew, I didn't plan to make this so long and now I'm tired. I will finish it tomorrow.