Posted by:
NeverMo in CA
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Date: July 12, 2011 01:15PM
sexismyreligion, why do you even need to "convert" to Islam to marry him? Islam allows Muslim males to marry Jewish or Christian women anyway, so his family should not have an issue with your marriage. I believe you said in your post yesterday that you are "technically" Christian, right?
I could tell you some BAD stories about women I've known (including a cousin of mine) who married Muslim men who seemed very secular and later "turned," but it looks like plenty of others here have already done that. One story I could tell would rival "Not Without My Daughter," if you are aware of that book and film. Frankly, if I were to recount it story here, I doubt anyone would even believe it, but it is absolutely true.
You seem pretty clued-in about the consequences of leaving Islam, which are bad enough. However, you should also familiarize yourself with women's and children's rights (or the lack thereof) under Islamic law, if you aren't already aware of this. Under Islamic law, husbands have **complete** rights over their children, and if you ever have children and later divorce, your husband, or his relatives, will have complete custody of your children after they have reach only about six years old. That would be in an Islamic country, of course--I don't mean here, obviously, but it's something to think about seriously. Our government will not intervene in any way to help American women whose children are being kept by their ex-husbands or partners in Islamic countries.
Also, in Islam, all children of a Muslim father are automatically considered Muslim, regardless of how they may be raised. You might want them to be raised Christian, atheist, whatever, but in Islamic societies and under Islamic laws, they will be deemed Muslim no matter what.
I appreciate your service (and your fiance's) to our country. Please be very careful, though. I sincerely wish both you and your fiance the best in your marriage.