Posted by:
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Date: June 08, 2011 03:12PM
As a Catholic convert, I still have a problem with viewing Confession as terribly intrusive.
However, to understand it, you have to know exactly what it is, and why it is.
The sacrament is actually known as "Reconciliation." And it is more of a counseling session than a recitation of sins. The purpose is to find out what has happened to intrude on your relationship with God, and how to rectify the separation.
Simply listing four venal sins and two mortal sins won't do it. The priest needs to know the circumstances of the incidents, and then he can counsel you on how to avoid them the next time you encounter them.
And you also must admit remorse for your actions, and the priest has to believe you are going to do your best to not commit the same sins again.
"I'm living with my boyfriend," can be a confession, but to make it complete, you have to indicate that you'll stop the "sin," or correct the circumstances. Otherwise, you cannot receive absolution.
Confession to a priest is misunderstood. Many people say, "I don't know why I should have to tell a priest, I can confess my sins directly to God." And that is absolutely true. But will you be completely HONEST to God? Most people try to bargain with God. Or reason with Him. "Yeah, I did cheat on that test, but EVERYBODY was cheating, and if I wanted a passing score, I had to do whatever it takes."
The priest isn't there to judge you. And he certainly isn't going to be shocked or surprised by what you confess. Truly, there isn't anything new under the sun! But a competent priest will be able to see through the fudging, the BS, and the justification, and let you know that you aren't kidding anyone but yourself. According to the beliefs of the Catholic Church, the priest is serving as God's ear in hearing your confession. He receives this authority from the Apostolic succession, from when Jesus breathed on the disciples and said, "Receive the Holy Spirit: what you hold bound on earth will be bound in Heaven, and what you loose on earth will be loosened in Heaven."
It's a natural, normal human trait that people feel the need to unburden themselves to another person. This is obvious from the business success of everyone from bartenders to psychiatrists. A priest is an ideal confessor, because NOTHING leaves the confessional.
After the confession, the "counseling session," if the priest is convinced of the sincerity of your remorse and of the promise to avoid the sin in the future, he uses his authority to absolve you of sin.
To a Catholic, it's a joyful, exhilarating moment. The spiritual high is unlike anything else.
You may be given prayers to say, or something to read, or one of my favorites, an anonymous act of charity to perform. These efforts are NOT a method of "earning" forgiveness. You are already forgiven the moment you leave the confessional. Instead, they are actions that to reinforce and remind you of your relationship to God.
~VOW