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knotheadusc
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Date: January 12, 2018 03:00AM
I know. I just get tired of the controversy surrounding the name of my blog. It was not really intended to be taken as literally as some people take it. It's really just a place I go to write stuff. And now, it's too late to change the name.
When I first started writing my blog back in 2010, I was feeling really frustrated about things. We had just moved for the third or fourth time in just a few years-- the latest move was from Germany. We had come back early and I was sad about it because it was our favorite duty station. I also knew that because the new post was slated to close, we'd have to move again in less than two years. By the time my husband retired from the Army, we'd moved six times within a period of seven years.
I was cleaning up the badly neglected rental house we'd moved into and musing about how I was definitely not doing what I pictured myself doing at my age. At the time, I still had a huge balance on my student loans. While we were doing okay financially, it was hard to get ahead. It seemed like that time I spent in school didn't really pay off the way I thought it would-- although I don't really regret the experience. That's when I decided on the blog's title.
I actually kept the first blog somewhat secret for a long time, mainly because I didn't want my husband's ex wife or kids to find it. It was simply where I went to vent my spleen, write reviews, or muse about any number of topics. I started writing it at about the time my husband found his daughter's blog. You might say she even inspired me. As time went on, people started finding it and I began to embrace being read. It took years before I got noticed and longer than that before anyone mentioned the blog's title.
I now have a lot of readers in the military community. I don't know how many folks in this forum have experienced life in the military community, particularly as a spouse. I will tell you that it can be very frustrating to be formally "educated" when you're a military spouse (or really, wife). There are a lot of conflicting attitudes within the community. They like spouses to be educated, but not too educated. If you are educated and don't have any kids or a formal career, you get a lot of crap for that, too.
In the military community, spouses and children of active duty and retired members are referred to as "dependents". I personally hate that term because it infers that adults "depend" on their spouses. Moreover, it's led to the derogatory term "dependapotamus", which comes from the stereotype that spouses are fat, lazy, baby machines who sit on their asses, whine about Tricare benefits, and drain their husband's paychecks buying Coach bags at the PX.
However... if you do happen to have a formal education and/or a career, particularly if you're a woman and went to grad school, you'll encounter another attitude within the community. People think you're egotistical and/or need to be brought down a peg. It's often male servicemembers who do this, but some spouses also do it. I suspect the wives do it because some of them feel unfulfilled or inadequate. It's not easy maintaining a career when you have to move all the time. I finally gave up on it and now devote my time to writing and making music.
I get a lot of flak from people over the name of my blog, usually until they get to know me. Some people won't even bother getting to know me because they think I'm too big for my britches simply because I named my blog "The Overeducated Housewife". On the other hand, I have also found that military folks and ex Mormons are some of my most dedicated readers. :D Here in Stuttgart, I sometimes even get recognized like a very minor celebrity among the Americans. It's pretty funny!
Anyway... I am in no way saying that education is a bad thing or that people shouldn't go to school if they want to. What I am saying is that I went to graduate school for three years and ultimately earned three degrees. I expected to have a real career with business cards and an office somewhere. I thought I would have more of a return on the investment. Had I not married an Army guy six months after graduation, things might have been different. On the other hand, I could not have asked for a better husband. We do have a great life, for the most part... even with the drama from his ex wife and daughters.
I turned into a housewife, for better or worse. No matter what anyone says, one does not need seven years of post secondary education to do laundry and clean toilets. :D Maybe when we move back to the States, I'll find something else to do with my time. However, I did always want to be a writer and, I guess, the military has allowed me to do that. So I'm not really complaining... especially since thanks to some fiscal determination my student loans will be paid off this year.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 01/12/2018 03:38AM by knotheadusc.