Posted by:
rubberband
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Date: January 07, 2018 12:25PM
OP, I view it as your having been polite to a rude person. "No" or "None of your business" might have been the *stick to your guns* response, but that is not always necessary, especially if taken aback by a rude, personal and inappropriate question.
Instead of feeling bad about it, please try to think of it as an insignificant event that serves to goad you into taking control of the art of deflection, on tap at will.
Looking the questioner in the eye, offering a handshake, knuckle bump or whatever the norm is for you, "It was great getting together, and I was (past-tense, over-his-head slight) glad to meet you. Maybe we'll talk again,... goodnight!"
In the middle of an evening, "I need a nature break" (or however you say you need relieve yourself). Then go, it buys time to think and calm down.. If the questioner persists on your return, respond with a non-religious question about sports, school, job, his current living situation, dating, mate or children (something of interest and/or personal to him). Basically, answer a question with a question. Over and over again. Turn his attention from you back onto him.
A convert may well be clueless about BIC indoctrination, and has joined to be part of a group. You can set your own "rules" for participation. Gauche questioners - deflect them like steering around a pothole. Matters of faith are personal, a concept foreign to cult-like, religious group-think. Leaving LDS is letting go of revealing every little tidbit of your private matters. You can choose not to answer, however you like. You don't answer to a bishop, or probing, personal questions, anymore.
For being caught off guard, you did okay, still learning to take back your life.
Be gentle to yourself, like you would to someone you love.