When someone posts their most tragic life events here, the answers they receive from fellow posters may offer a crumb of support in their most difficult days when really nothing can take away the pain.

it is hardly the time to start a heated discussion about various beliefs or other off topic type exchanges in direct response to that post. Whether the loss/event happened this day or 29 years ago or at birth or during a wedding or baptism or what-the-hell-ever. Especially is it unhelpful/counterproductive to pick apart a post that is detailing someone's FEELINGS or THOUGHTS about their heartache.

Is this not completely obvious?

We can take a cue from a person's message and tone, no? Sudden death, especially, is a big clue that the poster is wanting to express feelings about the depth of their loss and guaranteed is not looking for a debate or criticism of how they feel.

Obvious. Right?

Please. Sensitivity wouldn't go amiss in the midst of someone's tragedy.

And in general: In alignment with Board purpose and rules, keep any discussion civil, avoiding overly critical or personal remarks.