Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: November 20, 2017 08:29AM
You are already honoring him, by thinking of him fondly, and remembering the good times with him. Depending on your own belief in the afterlife, your older man friend knows this, or, at least, positive energy is being sent out into the universe.
As for his family, they are the ones who need to be comforted. They would like to know about your happy memories of their loved one. You would be honoring him, again, by telling his family. This can be done at the viewing.
I always go to the viewings, sign the register (they do look at the names, later), stand quietly in line, and say a few kind words to the family members, and go home. If I can't go to the viewing, I send a sympathy card.
No one knows who is, or who is not, at the actual funeral. There is no chance to talk to anyone. You might find out some interesting facts about the deceased, and that's the only positive. If it upsets you to hear the plan of salvation and all the preaching, then don't go.
Mormon funerals give me PTSD flashbacks, and I would get so upset, that it would effect my performance at work, afterwards. If a very close friend or relative dies, I send flowers, suck it up, and go. It's all about the grieving family, and not about you, and not about the cult. Don't let the Mormon church dictate what you do.