I am not mormon, never have been but had a weird experience with a mormon doctor.

I found him to be very flirty, slightly nervous, maybe uncomfortable around me, said weird things (used wrong words...I do this also sometimes so I recognized it).

He even randomly touched my knee saying he liked my sequins on my dress, that was really weird, I mean who randomly touches people like that??

My husband and nurses were in the room all the time, there were about 7 visits, I broke my ankles and he was my ortho surgeon/doctor. He even acted as if he knew me better than my husband. Hubby made a joke about me skating or something, and doc looked at me and shook his head no, like she wouldn't do that. Winked at me a few times.

He said he is not used to patients his own age, and told me his and his wife's age unprovoked. He even showed interest in other medical problems like how he can help me (he is a foot/ankle specialist).

It was all pretty innocent, I am not complaining, I actually kind of liked it, as men don't usually flirt with me, and he was very handsome, so it boosted my ego. I guess I could be imaging it as more than it was. We are done now, I don't have to go back. It was an odd experience all around. I was thinking if he does this to other female patients, some of these women might make passes at him or worse become stalkers.

I wouldn't have been comfortable with that behavior.

I'm 99% sure you weren't imagining it as more than it was. Women usually think that. Flirty men like the intrigue, and the chase. They are usually Narcissistic. And bored. It's tough being a doctor. Since you didn't respond, you will never know what would have happened if you had responded.

I get insulted when that happens. I think, "You don't know me. If you did, you wouldn't treat me like this. You don't care about ME, only yourself and your little games."

Mormon men are the worst, in my opinion. I have dealt with men in the workforce, and I dealt with Mormon men at church. There was funny-flirting, sometimes, at work, but never anything like harassment. At church, I was single, then divorced, but even when I was married to a "less-active" man, I was blatantly and rudely hit-on, all the time. These men were not subtle. They wanted a conquest. They knew I didn't have a man to protect me, so they didn't care how obvious and obnoxious they were. They had no respect. A bishop, a stake president's counselor, a former bishop--what they had in common was that they were all "smarmy" and repulsive, they were all married, and they all hit on several other women that I knew. Oh, and they all wore that creepy underwear. Ugh.

At least your doctor was attractive.

I pity their wives.

Yes funny-flirting, he was really funny at times, which felt slightly flirty, always innocent, I was thinking maybe this is just his personality, because it was so weird is why I wanted to learn more about mormons, and why I came here.

blech and yuck. That kind of behavior is definitely inappropriate; I would've run for the nearest exit pronto muy. It was behavior. You don't imagine behavior.

The sad part was I enjoyed it, and almost thought he thought I was special, but now I see that he probably does this to lots of women, I did notice he winked at one of his staff. I can see how some vulnerable women could fall for him.

It means that he has done it before and it works...and he gets off on it.

There are many who are outgoing and genuinely love people who become doctors with great bedside manners; this guy may a have lovely wife and 5 kids and home and coach little league and hug kids and joke around with their moms and dads and be a 100% super human being.


On the other hand.........

in for links to pics of OPie in sequin dress ~

Haha.....my dress was a normal dress with small sequins sparingly distributed, more of a casual boho/hippie type dress. there are sequins on many casual tops/dresses these days. Not what you guys are thinking, although I hadn't thought of that when I described it. And the only reason I wore a dress is because I had to wear 2 big almost knee high cam boots that is hard to get pants over. I actually had to buy these dresses just to have something to wear during this time. It was a horrible time, I was in a wheelchair for almost 2 months.

All I know is, it sounded like grooming to me--based on my own experiences. On the other hand, I would not have gone to a male doctor in a sequin dress, either. So there's that.

I won't go to a male doctor any more. Last one I went to was a mysogynest blip.

What is grooming, you mean trying to get me to learn about LDS?

Yes, he'd tell you things that it thrilled you to hear, and then he'd get you off along and baptize you! It's horrible what they can get away with, based on their charm, their charisma!!

grooming is what it is called when a predator disarms his or her prey being doing things that are warm, friendly, things that appeal to anyone's sense of liking to be liked, appreciated, and friendly---while subtly breaking down barriers/boundaries that normally would alert a person that all is not safe and appropriate.

Huh! It sounds suspiciously like 1960s era courtship!

Sounds like he was just trying to relax you, especially if he had an audience.Id be more worried if it was just you and he in the room. I've had doctors who winked at me too in the past. It seemed like it was just a gesture to say everything is going to be alright. A lot of childrens doctors to that to relax their very nervous patients.

A Mormon doctor once stuck his finger in my rectum. He had some cockamamie story about checking something out. I felt so violated. I've never spoken about it.

Cludgie, my brother, welcome to the club!

While at the Y, in early May, 1968, I developed some weird symptoms and was admitted to the health center for testing. There was never any conclusion that was shared with me regarding the genesis of the pain. A couple of days after being released, I got word that a doctor wanted to see me. This was at the old health center, directly south of the LTM buildings.

So he explained that he wanted to check my sperm. He had me take off my clothes and told me to hold a microscope slide under my penis and then he did the pokey-pokey thing and pressed on my prostate and freaking milked out some sperm. Weird shit, man!

Now in your case, that doctor was probably just checking your prostate, which I have had done, along with all other old farts here.

I never heard another word from that doctor or the health center. Was he actually following up on my case or did he just see this as a chance to molest a sweet young Mexican boy? I prefer to think it was the former. But if it was the latter, well, you have to admire his taste.

At my age, things are out of kilter if some urologist isn't always checking out my prostate. Don't mean I like it none. Nossir.

Look, if he doesn't have any, you should bring your own flowers.

Maybe he sold it and you have kids running around that you didn't even know about.

Me, suspicsious? nah.

I have a theory. Specialists seem to be extra conscious of their "bedside manner". It's like they're trying harder to charm their patients because we're not as committed to them as we are to our GP, and there's more competition. It's easier to leave and shop around for another one.

A socially awkward guy could very well overdo this, especially in an opposite sex situation.