Mother Who Knows
Date: November 12, 2017 07:18AM
Everyone is different. When I found out that Mormonism is a hoax and a cult, I couldn't get out of there fast enough! My children resigned with me. I asked them, one Saturday, on a whim, WHY they didn't like church. First, I had to reassure them that I was going to listen to them, and understand, and not get angry at them. Then, they told me about instances of physical abuse, when they were younger, at the hands of adult priesthood leaders, and a pervert high school senior, who was the bishop's son. I will spare the details, but my children were great kids, and didn't deserve such horrendous abuse for merely sleeping in, after an early morning paper route, and being unable to get up for church, or for being late for a meeting, or for staying home and doing homework instead of attending a YM activity.
"Target" is a good word for it! My children did not have a father on the scene, to protect them from Mormon bullies.
IMO, your child would be "in peril" in the Mormon cult. I would put his/her safety and happiness above everything else.
If you protect your wife from the ugly underbelly of the cult, you are just abetting the lies. The Mormons will continue to grab a big chunk of your money--which adds up, over the years. Your wife will never know how nasty the mormons can be to a member who isn't obedient. How will she know, unless you miss several meetings in a row, and the priesthood leaders come down hard on you both. Skip your tithing settlement this January, and see how un-Christ-like the Mormons are towards you and your wife. Let her go to church without you, and be treated like dirt, as the wife of a "less-active" husband. She will be blamed for your inactivity.
Most Mormons have an emotional testimony. That's why it is often futile to appeal to their intellect. She will think you are reading "anti-Mormon literature" or that you are being "influenced by Satan", or are spending too much time on the "evil internet." But--let her experience a heavy dose of reality--for herself--and come to her own conclusion. That's what happened to me. After talking to my children, it hit me like lightning: "Mormonism is not God's work."
Only after that, did I start studying, and getting answers.
It is good advice for you to make your wife's life as happy and possible, outside of church. Education is a great eye-opener, no matter what the subject. Travel, if you can. Spend time with non-Mormon friends. Offer her more time with you and your new baby, on Sundays, as an alternative to church. Actually, church is no place for babies.
I feel that you should be honest with your wife. Be a man of integrity, and do not do something that you believe is wrong. Your wife can do whatever she wants, but you need to follow your conscience. Don't you think she deserves the Truth? The truth about you, the truth that Mormonism is a cult? What she does with that information is up to her.
I feel bad for you. I was lucky, because my husband left before I did, and my children wanted to leave, before I did. I never had to "fake it." That would have been impossible, I'm afraid.