No, but I am the reason (scapegoat or black sheep? I dunno exactly) for all the worries and frustrations and current poor health of my mother, even though I am a middle-aged married mother of two. My father also believes I am the cause of his wife's current anguish and so he is cross with me for 'making her ill'. He was not happy at all when I told him I do not control nor cause my mother's bad habits that cause her health to deteriorate. Took me a while to convince myself and to be honest, I have still not completely convinced myself of the same, yet.
Isn't it wonderful how our mormon relatives are able to scapegoat someone or something to enable them to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions? What a wonderful, heavenly religion the mormon church must be that it would subliminally teach this 'coping strategy'? (sarcasm)
Never. I've had it done to me and it's very cruel.
I can only remember ever having been purposefully cruel to one person in my life and that was when I was in the 7th grade. I still regret it. I also regret having the opportunity when I was in my early 20's to apologize and not having done so.
I have no doubt that I have been inadvertently hurtful but I haven't purposefully done so.
I'm the one everyone comes to to dump their problems and concerns, and then they go about their business. I always know if 2 of my siblings aren't calling, their lives are going okay. I have a therapist. They all don't. My therapist has told me they all need some therapy, but since I get therapy, then I'm the "identified patient." The only way I am ever heard is to go ballistic and then they all think I'm nuts.
So, nope. I pretty much keep to myself or my therapist. My boyfriend, as he left to go to AZ for a few days and I'm babysitting his dog, told me I better make appts with my therapist because of some issues I'm dealing with. . . Oh, and if my ex needs a therapist for a day or two, he uses mine.