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Posted by: anybody ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 05:35PM

or is it left to their discretion? If not, do they do so on their own initiative?

I don't just mean the general catch all "have you done anything that you think is bad" question. I'm specifically asking about autosexual behaviour and if so the directive compelling them to ask.

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Posted by: catnip ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 05:43PM

The standard question was "Do you abide by the Law of Chastity?" Since I never considered M to be a "chastity violation" (even though I knew the church felt otherwise) I always answered "Yes," and never gave it a second thought.

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Posted by: luckylucas ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 06:51PM

catnip Wrote:
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> The standard question was "Do you abide by the Law
> of Chastity?" Since I never considered M to be a
> "chastity violation" (even though I knew the
> church felt otherwise) I always answered "Yes,"
> and never gave it a second thought.

Me neither, as I was baptized when I was 21, I already knew M was a natural thing.

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Posted by: cl2 ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 06:20PM

from age 12 to age 17. Then we got a new bishop. He didn't ask.

I'm including dance card interviews every 3 months, every bishopric interview by the bishop, not by the counselors. If we went to the temple for baptisms, yep, got asked. If seemed anytime he could ask,he would. He asked all the girls. My sister wasn't afraid to ask other girls in her class. I was. So she learned a lot about things he would ask.

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Posted by: summer ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 06:23PM

Unbelievable. What a voyeur.

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Posted by: anybody ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 07:19PM

The more I learn about Mormonism, the weirder it gets.


http://www.siteimpressions.com/laceystake/YouthDanceStandards.pdf



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/13/2017 07:21PM by anybody.

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Posted by: Dave the Atheist ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 01:57AM

I went to those dances and dance cards were not required. This is yet more draconian bullshit.

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Posted by: NevermoinIdaho ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 08:43PM

If I had a daughter and this happened even once I would be on the phone with the authorities ASAP! This is NOT NORMAL.

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 07:24PM

I never indulged in autosexual behavior. I'm old-school, we had to learn how to use a clutch.

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Posted by: dp ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 12:47AM

You learned how to drive a stick-shift, eh?

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Posted by: ificouldhietokolob ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 07:25PM

I got asked in every single interview I ever had, from pre-deacon until I left the cult at 21.

One of my especially-enthusiastic bishops would go into great detail asking about "sexual" behavior:

"When was the last time you french-kissed a girl? That's the start of the pathway to illicit fornication, you know...?"

"Have you ever touched a girl's breast, intentionally or accidentally? Did you get aroused when you did? Which girl was it?"

One of my smart-ass (meaning outstanding) friends, when asked the last time he had french-kissed a girl by this bishop, replied:
"What time is it?"

The bishop wasn't amused. He was forbidden from blessing the sacrament (we were priests at the time) for two weeks.

That guy was a real piece of work. We all figured he was so horny (his wife was rather shrill, and none of us could imagine the two of them ever being "together") that he had to get his jollies vicariously through the ward teenagers...

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Posted by: dp ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 12:49AM

ificouldhietokolob Wrote:
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> One of my smart-ass (meaning outstanding) friends,
> when asked the last time he had french-kissed a
> girl by this bishop, replied:
> "What time is it?"


Seems like the right moment to (again!) share this joke with the board:

Mission Prez: Elder, do you have a problem with masturbation?
Elder: No, Prez; it works every time!

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Posted by: donbagley ( )
Date: September 13, 2017 08:24PM

It's criminal. If not, the law is wrong.

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Posted by: anybody ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 01:58AM


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Posted by: Wnon ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 03:11AM

Maybe the names of Bishops who ask minors personal questions should be published and with the types of questions they ask. That would put a stop to it.

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Posted by: ificouldhietokolob ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 09:26AM

Wnon Wrote:
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> Maybe the names of Bishops who ask minors personal
> questions should be published and with the types
> of questions they ask. That would put a stop to
> it.

I think the two who did it with me are long dead (I know one is), but I'll post 'em anyway:

Bishop Robert Lemmon
Bishop Z. Reed Millar

Poway 2nd ward

I'm all for transparency :)

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Posted by: lurking in ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 12:04PM

Did you happen to know of a Henderson (Hendersen?) family in Poway? The father was a successful lawyer in that area and my understanding is that he was also Stake President, maybe in the early nineties. I know you were exmo well before that but I thought I'd ask, just out of curiosity.

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Posted by: Andrew R. ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 04:59AM

I'm 52 this month and I don't remember ever being asked a question specifically about masturbation. We did have a YM president who seemed quite obsessed with talking about it - and three of the YM were his step-sons.

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Posted by: MRM ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 11:05AM

My mother-in-law, who is now deceased, would start to giggle when she became embarrassed. When she was about 70 the stupid bishop asked her if she masturbated. She was so embarrassed she started to giggle and could not stop. The bishop then became embarrassed and ended the interviewed and quickly gave her a temple recommend. My mother-in-law, who was very prim and proper, makes it even more funny. I still laugh when I think about it.

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Posted by: Bamboozled ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 11:52AM

I was asked constantly from 12 on up to my mid 20's. BYU bishops seemed to be really interested in this topic.

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Posted by: cl2 ( )
Date: September 14, 2017 12:20PM

died in June. I'm sure he has gone on to his just rewards. ha ha ha ha It has to be mind blowing for these assholes to die and find out they were just a bunch of perverts or nothing at all, and not called of God.

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Posted by: Holy Moly ( )
Date: September 15, 2017 02:40PM

cl2 Wrote:
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> died in June. I'm sure he has gone on to his just
> rewards. ha ha ha ha It has to be mind blowing for
> these assholes to die and find out they were just
> a bunch of perverts or nothing at all, and not
> called of God.

To elaborate.... I would just issue the cards...

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Posted by: steve benson ( )
Date: September 18, 2017 01:31AM

After all, it can use more help from card-worthy tithepayers, given that its membership rolls aren't doing all that well these days.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/18/2017 01:32AM by steve benson.

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Posted by: HolyMoly ( )
Date: September 15, 2017 02:38PM

I was a bishop and never ever did dance card interviews. The purpose as I saw it was to show their commitment to keeping church standards at the dance. Why would I stop any young person from attending a dance where they could develop relationships with members and hopefully have a positive experience...

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Posted by: steve benson ( )
Date: September 18, 2017 01:35AM

. . . to substantively call to task the racist, Mormon-rooted and -rotted sculptor of Mt. Rushmore?

http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,2018242


You need to start thinking about Mormonism's autobigoted behavior. Keep working on that personal remake of yours.



Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 09/18/2017 01:47AM by steve benson.

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