Date: September 14, 2017 01:39AM
A lot of it depends on your personality. The more sensitive types hang on to anger and resentment longer. And those types tend to have believed in it more strongly. I've discovered most members only had superficial belief - it is mostly the social network, with doctrine as an excuse to get together and feel superior and safe.
Unfortunately, sites like this can prolong the anger. Kind of a herd mentality, feeding frenzy, and pointing out every little problem with Mormonism. Reminds me after I left the church, I went to a non-mo therapist. She really liked promoting anger - beating on pillows and cursing about your bad dads, as everybody has bad dads, and about bad religion, etc. It did feel good temporarily after you did the anger thing.
One day she mentioned in a group session that some day we could be as successful as she was, and she never dreamed she could have the big house she had. At that point, I realized I was paying for that house with all this anger crap. Another scam.
What helped me the most was gaining understanding. I finally figured out human behavior. Church is mostly just one form of tribalism. People like clinging together in a group for comfort and survival. Other groups are gangs, political parties or ideologies (liberals/conservatives), football teams, races, nations, etc. Pretty rare person that puts principles above allegiance to their tribe. Hard to admit when that applies to your spouse and mom and dad and siblings.
You also realize the church is just one of many scams, and not the biggest. There is the scam of government, as most programs and wars are BS. Then there is feminism, which cherry-picks info to promote faith as does the church.
Then there is the marriage scam. I discovered I was not my wife's first love, but the church was. Also when I had career troubles, she threatened divorce. Marriage vows are a joke. To her, I was like a job - a source of benefits. And when you find a better job/husband, you make a career change.
If you watch people, you realize most are lying multiple times a day, or at least avoiding blame and responsibility. Denial everywhere. People believe what they want.
Life is pretty much a mess. If we had been informed of that from the beginning, wouldn't have such a problem when those who couldn't deny reality discovered it. But of course, most parents don't get it, and the so-called educators at our government schools certainly aren't going to spill the beans on all the scams. Too much politics and money involved.