Date: June 19, 2017 08:08PM
It depends on a lot of factors. For me, anger was not part of how or why I left the LDS Church. Yes, the claims are bogus, but they are so bizarre (from the original claims) that they were just too funny to believe!
At my age, I rarely give over any of my personal power to anger or any kind of negativity. Probably not in years, now. That comes from taking my power back and owning it. Nobody and nothing has the power to "make" me angry. Sure, I get frustrated, irritated, annoyed, upset, but it does not add up to anger.
I have been known to "sound angry" but I was not angry. I have also been known to have a "dramatic personality" so when I am excited about something, raise my voice, I may be enthusiastic and emphatic, and passionate, but that is not anger from me.
The greatest release on the road to making peace with all of my life is forgiveness. Let the past go. I don't live there anymore.
What other people did and said, no matter how outrageous it was, no matter how much they lied, cheated me, mistreated me, did not support me, etc., etc, was about them, not me. Never was it about me.
I know that people often have no idea what they are doing when making choices and taking action. Never once does it occur to them that they are influencing someone in a very negative, sometimes hurtful manner. Some do it on purpose and some do not care, but either way, it is about them, not me.
I realized, eventually, that to be offended, I have to "take" offense. At this point in my life..... I refuse! I refuse to take on anyone else's problems and issues, etc.
If I am concerned about something, getting mad or angry is less preferable to being enthusiastic, and or passionate. I just don't see a need to be angry, personally.
I know as human beings, we are going to experience a large variety of emotions. I also know that I am in charge of my emotions. If I own my own power, I maintain in charge which means other people are not going to be able to dictate how I feel, or what emotions I feel. I'll decide! And, most of the time, that is how it works.....