Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: May 25, 2017 02:09PM
Me, several times, when I was a bridesmaid. I was too young. It seemed silly to have the dress, and stand in the wedding reception line, and be in the photos--but not be allowed to attend the actual wedding.
Mr. Happy, money makes up for a lot! You probably paid far less than you would have paid in tithing.
I was "inactive" when my daughter married a Mormon RM in the temple. I gave her a choice.
1. I would go through the temple with her, and go to her temple wedding, which meant I would get a temple recommend, and pay the cult 5 months' worth of tithing, and attend 75% of the sacrament meetings, as the bishop demanded. (I would not attend any other Mormon stuff, and would not take any callings.)
2. I would give her the 5 months' of tithing, in cash, as a wedding present.
She said she wanted me to attend her wedding, so I did. The temple was crowded that day, and the in-laws coaxed the photographer to take lots of pictures around the temple. I had hired the photographer, and had instructed her to take pictures of the reception ONLY, and the bridesmaids and groomsmen (who couldn't go to the temple) and the guests, etc. Too much time was spent in the 100-degree heat, and my daughter didn't have time to repair the damage the heavy temple veil and hat had done to her hair, so she had to go to the reception "as is." She started to cry, and said, "This is NOT what I expected my wedding to be like." I wanted to say, "I told you so!" Instead, I told her that her real marriage happened when she and her husband signed the marriage license. I also reassured her that we had spent months planning the perfect wedding reception of her dreams! The great reception party--live band, dancing, great buffet, beautiful garden, all our friends WELCOME, made up for the bad temple jou-jou. (Hissssssss--it was evil in there!)
What a nasty, insulting display of fake-power, on the Mormons' part. Sitting in the holding-pen for the unworthies was never a good experience. I did it for my siblings, and those other Mormon brides, and my nieces and nephews. Usually, I would end up trying to entertain the little kids in there. One time, we went to McDonald's. Another time, we walked around the grounds, and played in the parking lot. The Mormons did not like that! They said it was disrespectful to play. I lost it and said that WE were the ones being disrespected.
No, I think Mormonism is the only "religion" (it's really a cult) that bans loved ones from weddings. I use this, too, as a persuasion to help new investigators decide to NOT join the cult.
The experience of being held in that crowded temple waiting room, with crying kids, and Mormon advertising on the TV screen, at my daughter's temple wedding, only reinforced the aversion that my other children, and their father, feel towards the cult. It was like the final nail in the coffin.
Then they had to go outside and wait in the crowds, to be photographed on those hard stone steps which lead to an ugly, giant "door" that isn't a real door. They had to smile and pretend they were at a wedding, when they weren't really in there.
Not only do they ban you--they make you smile and pretend you weren't abused at all, and that it all was wonderful--they have the smiling photos to prove it. It was the forced phoniness that bothered my daughter's father the most.
Neither of us will attend anything Mormon, because it will be interpreted as "supporting the cult", and we do NOT.
I know how the OP felt:
"...not that I wanted in as much as I wanted my kids out."