Posted by:
Itzpapalotl
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Date: April 22, 2017 07:59PM
....And educate yourself.
This is something I've been thinking about lately and the posts made by Hockeyrat made me think about it some more. I, too, have a American-Korean friend that gets fed up with all the assumptions and ignorance surrounding her ethnicity and identification. I can't remember the poster (maybe it was the same?) mentioned that a friend as no problem with ebing called oriental and that's a personal choice. I am not bothered when people refer to me as Native, Indian, Latina, Hispanic or just racially/ethnically ambiguous, but others with the same ethnicities may not feel the same way.
That's why microaggressions, a term people that are quite ignorant about and like to misuse all the time, can be frustrating to deal with on the regular. If you don't have to deal with the constant assumptions, rude questions, and lack of boundaries that many ethnic people face multiple times a day all over the place you are lucky with privilege.
http://sph.umn.edu/site/docs/hewg/microaggressions.pdfhttps://www.buzzfeed.com/hnigatu/racial-microagressions-you-hear-on-a-daily-basis?utm_term=.xg7mz8lLP0#.hrE3RxzeJAhttps://world-trust.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/7-Racial-Microagressions-in-Everyday-Life.pdfhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/microaggressions-in-everyday-lifeIt's not about being oversensitive or PC culture run amok, it's about understanding that the constant barrage of "othering" is psychologically and sociologically detrimental to all people.
Not all ethnic people or people of various orientations or gender IDs want to be called the same ID and I promise, if you ask politely, like "What are your preferred pronouns?" are perfectly fine, it's a jerk move to ask ethnic people that are native to your country, "But where are you REALLY from?" We live in a world that I didn't imagine 20 years with a whole host of identities that we're still learning about and I imagine it can be confusing and disturbing at times to many people of older generations (no, that is not an ageist statement.) It's okay not to know everything, it's not okay to perpetuate ignorance and bigotry.
Leaving the cult opens the world up in a myriad of ways and if you have a computer and internet access, you have a wide world of information at your fingertips. It really is sometimes like stepping into an alien world, especially if you have not experienced diversity as a standard. Marginalized identities already deal with discrimination and prejudice on a daily basis from the rest of society and if you choose so, you can be an ally and a friend. We need more education and empathy in this world that is connected by the tips of our fingers, not less.
But like I say, if you're going to choose be a willfully ignorant assbadger, you will probably get a fierce response. ;)
I'm still learning, too. A few years ago, there was a long thread about dredlocks. I defended white people wearing dreads using some pretty damn ignorant arguments. When I learned about what cultural appropriation was and why it's damaging to POC and their cultures, I understood the world a little better. I still love well-maintained locs no matter what the person's ethnicity, but now I understand the concerns of people who are not okay with those who appropriate them. And then there's the savage and children explanation that I had to come to terms with.
We're all alike in many ways and we're all different, too, and we can focus on both to better understand each other. If this post even helps one person, it's worth any backlash. It's ok to learn and grow and rethink your views, I promise. It's uncomfortable at first, but as you work through that discomfort, you may learn more than you anticipated.
Edited the second time because the topic line is not the best way to get the message across. Suggestions are welcome.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 04/23/2017 03:01PM by Itzpapalotl.