Posted by:
bohica
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Date: April 19, 2017 12:53AM
One of my greatest hopes is to one day have a great adult-to-adult relationship with my kids. Has anyone here pulled that off? I mean, you raised your kids outside the church, they are now grownups, and you've managed to transition to more of a grown up type of relationship with them.
One of my greatest laments is that I don't think I'll ever be able to have that type of relationship with my uber TBM parents. I mean, no matter what I do or how great my kids turn out, I will always be a disappointment and they'll never stop feeling like they need to do their utmost to 'bring me back to the fold' which I believe causes them to act even more TBMish than they otherwise would and makes it that much harder for our relationships to mature.
Anyway, it's late and I'm tired and I'm attempting to write this on my phone. I just know that if I have the same type of heavily censored and sanitized relationship with my adult children that I currently have with my own parents, I will be very disappointed.
I'd love to hear some success stories of solid, authentic relationships with your now adult kids. To give me hope if nothing else.