Posted by:
papyrus
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Date: April 16, 2017 02:11PM
Since you've already agreed to the discussions (while emotionally vulnerable) to please a spouse willing to use the death of your father to manipulate you, were it me, I would go straight to something like the CES letter.
Hold it in your unclean, gentile hands, read a few of the questions aloud, then say:
"You have no real authority over anyone, boys (or gentlemen). It's like rock *wink*, paper, scissors. Meat is stronger than milk, milk is stronger than priesthood, and priesthood is stronger than nothing. Thanks for stopping by."
This should put an end to your spouses's false hope of changing you, and any additional, amoral high-pressure sales tactics from either her or her cult's minions.
After they leave, and the crying and/or cold shoulder and/or yelling begins, calmly present her with "her" resignation letter to LDS, and say,
"I have never done this to you, and I expect the same level of respect for my beliefs. I consider the timing of this assault as an insult to my intellect, and the respect and tolerance I've shown for your beliefs. The faith that you have violated is my faith in you."
Some will say that this is a horrible idea. I say, be you; be authentic. Freedom is worthy of defense. You can drag it out or nip it in the bud.
There is no need to waste your life "studying" the BoM to counter a crazy cult. The CES letter is like the Cliff notes version of earlier works from which parts of it may have been constructed.
For a healthier approach (than mine) to your marital issues, see (and home page of):
http://packham.n4m.org/spouse.htmThe choices are yours, and I wish you the best.