So, a small part of my LDS family came by - my mother, my elder brother and sister-in-law.

Long story short, big bro had to use the computer and when he opened up the server this website (exmormon.org) was posted as "most recent." He gave me an odd look when I was talking to my sister-in-law and I asked him what was wrong. He replied "Nothing," but I have a feeling it was because of this.

Nothing has been said yet, but I will keep you posted. NO ONE, and I repeat NO ONE! knows that I have left. They just assume I am inactive.

If they try to pry it from me, I might just tell them to mind their own business and that I am an adult. If you don't know already, my mother has had years of practice guilt-tripping me into confessing if I have done wrong - but I feel leaving the church the best things in my life I have done for myself.

I may just even own up to it instead of hiding. Lord knows what will happen.

One way of looking at it is that he'll rat on you and you'll get hell from your relatives.

Another is that you've planted a seed.

Hi lazylizard, your family sounds like they are orthodox Mormon. Rather then beat the bush, if they pry and ask, just come forth clean about it. How old are you, by the way?

Keep the mystery going. Report back. Okay?

You're big bro just might check this place out and, well, who knows what might happen?

Haha I see this happening to me as well my resignation letter was half finished on the kitchen counter when my dad was fixing my sink not sure if he saw it or not I forgot it was there. I'm not quite ready for the final battle but I am getting there.

Adam, why was your dad fixing your kitchen sink? If you don't know how, why weren't you there to learn how so you won't have to depend on your dad next time it " breaks"? This is more important for your independence than if your dad reads your letters or not. I hope you take my comment as constructive, not just critical. I have followed many of your posts and I know you are looking for independence. I struggled with personal issues at your age also.everything you learn now as a young adult will come in handy when others aren't around anymore.

Well I was recovering from foot surgery and I don't have the knowledge or skills but I guess I could have figured it out, I really have no excuse you are right.

Thanks for the civil answer Adam. I was hesitant to say anything but I like your honesty and forthrightness and figured you'd take it fairly as it was meant. So, are you in a Boot still or able to walk without one ? Best of luck in the future, especially if you go back to school. FYI, I'm nursing a shoulder separation for the last two weeks and have at least 2 more months to be back to be able to work. Gets boring, doesn't it.

Been out of the boot for about a week now and I'm walking pretty good now I know sometimes I'm a loose cannon with my responses but I'm trying pretty hard to piece myself back together. I know how the shoulders go I had two surgeries before my foot on both and my right shoulder still hurts and it was done in December. Well I wish you luck with the shoulder.

Thanks man.

Thanks Adam.

Print up some cards with this site's URL.

Hell, add a QR code for the more technically inclined in your family:
https://chart.googleapis.com/chart?cht=qr&chl=http%3A%2F%2Fexmormon.org%2F&chs=180x180&choe=UTF-8&chld=L|2

Just FYI, if he decided to go on-line at home and see if he could figure out what it was YOU were posting here, he can probably figure it out now.

Does your bro know you are a lazylizard? If so he definitely knows.

Hi! LazyLizards brother. Welcome to RFM.

What do you know about the Mormon Church? Would you like to know more?

Go To:
MormonThink.com and/or CESLetter.com

Don't fret about it. That's life.

Be yourself. If your brother brings it up, don't hide it. You don't need to volunteer it either.

You're both grownups. It's a free country.

They're going to find out anyway, so maybe it was a good way to break the ice.

^^ Agreed

If you dont want to come out yet, tell him you were just browsing. What you share is up to you.

If you want to maintain anonymity, you might want to change your user name.

You mean he found that the bishop wanted you to confront a doubting member and by bearing your testimony on this site many of us return to church???????????

Insist on a thorough search of his browsing history if he brings it up. It's none of his business if you don't want it to be. On the other hand, just letting the truth fly and letting the chips land where they may is empowering. Your choice. Always your choice.

lazylizard Wrote:
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> I may just even own up to it instead of hiding.
> Lord knows what will happen.

He does. He designed it to be a shiz storm of retribution for non-belief.

It's your business. Everybody else needs to get their big nosy noses out of your business. They would have their nerve for any kind of questioning found on your own computer.
And, Adam, I just wish my dad was still around to help with plumbing problems, etc.

aquarius123 Wrote:
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> It's your business. Everybody else needs to get
> their big nosy noses out of your business. They
> would have their nerve for any kind of questioning
> found on your own computer.
> And, Adam, I just wish my dad was still around to
> help with plumbing problems, etc.


Plumbing is not my thing, I can do a lot of other things like alarms and in putting up fences but that's about it.

This,,

And, Adam, I just wish my dad was still around to
> help with plumbing problems, etc.

This might be an open door for you, but only if you want it to be.

Some words of what not to do....way back when, before I had found this site, in my excitement and anger, I wrote a letter to family members. In totality, it wasn't a terrible letter, but I have since learned that there are much better ways to let the cat out of the bag. I had a variety of reactions to the letter, one was glad I wrote it including him in my journey, some felt it was not needed, while others felt I was calling them out on their choices.

I believe not making a big deal of it, just doing your thing and living your life, and letting people come to you with their questions, when and if they have any, is a terrific approach....one I would choose if I got to do overs.



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