Posted by:
Pariah
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Date: January 14, 2017 05:17AM
We ex-Mormons need to undo the Mormon brainwashing! I had to go to a therapist, finally!
There are a lot of superstitions that stick with us, in a sneaky way, long after we leave.
One of these many false ideas, is the idea that the world outside of Mormonism is lonely, or even hostile! This is wrong! I have found more love outside of the cult, than I ever had in it--and that includes any dysfunctional, so-called love coming from my TBM family.
Mormons don't believe in unconditional love. They make the members believe that there isn't any love at all, outside of the love that must be EARNED within the Mormon cult. This big lie keeps members wanting to belong to the group, and keeps them paying big money to stay in the group.
Another big lie is that in order for you to be useful and valuable, you must have lots of friends. This is part of the Mormon recruiting program. "Every member a missionary." "Invite your non-Mormon friends and neighbors." A member who helps bring a convert into the cult is honored.
The average man has 2-3 good friends. The average woman has 3-4. Not hundreds. Not a whole chapel full of friends.
You are not alone, because there are wonderful people all around you. The ones who will really help you are the firefighters, EMT's, doctors, nurses, dentists, surgeons, specialists, ER personnel, therapists, psychiatrists, counselors, social workers, teachers, volunteers, people who man the suicide hotlines, AAA sponsors, and the list goes on. None of these are Mormons.
Mormons, and Mormon so-called friends, made my life WORSE. They added to any problem, by berating me for it. For example, they blamed me, completely, for my divorce. They said it is the woman's fault if her husband wanders into the arms of another woman. (Multiple affairs of a sex-addict who preys on women's weaknesses?) When I was sick and couldn't attend church for a few months, I was told that God was punishing me with the illness. I was not doing anything wrong, so they accused me of maybe asking too many questions, or not "drawing near enough in my heart" to The Gospel. I was threatened that if I didn't go to church, I would get SICKER. Do you have any idea of the harm those threats did to me, when I was single and living alone and frightened, and in terrible pain?
I have to say it--"with friends like that, who needs enemies?"