Posted by:
Anonny
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Date: January 12, 2017 10:06AM
Your nephew is in an extremely toxic environment given his parents were praying for him not to be gay and, now, believe that his paralysis is an answer to their prayers. Given the current situation, I assume it's impossible for him to physically move away from the TBM parents and the situation.
Research shows that stress, guilt and anger have a very real and negative effect on the immune system. I'm no doctor but it is possible that the intense stress of hiding and then revealing his homosexuality to his TBM parents weakened his immune system, setting the stage for the virus to take hold.
I say all of this only because it might help his recovery if he could learn some stress reduction techniques. Meditation can be very effective in reducing stress. A Reiki session could be relaxing and helpful. And, some cognitive behavioral therapy could help him deal with lingering guilt and anger. Just because "everything calmed down in a short time" does not mean that everything is okay. The parents' attitude about the paralysis says everything is not okay. And, your nephew likely is carrying all that negative baggage. No doubt he loves his parents -- and they are pleased he is paralyzed. He's actually made them happy by being paralyzed. That is not a situation that will lead to his recovery.
The best thing would be for him to move out. Barring that, stress reduction techniques might help. There are plenty of meditation apps available for download. Also, I personally like Access Consciousness. It's a kind of cognitive behavioral therapy that emphasizes things like "Who does this belong to" and "return to sender". It teaches us that, often, we are carrying baggage and emotions that really are not ours. In this case, your nephew seems to be carrying his parents' guilt, anger and sadness about his homosexuality. One can download the app and set it to beep every hour or so, reminding him to ask "who does this belong to" and "return to sender".
All of the foregoing comes from my personal experience -- I've been in an intense struggle with a life-threatening illness for the past year and have had months of treatment for that illness. I've done everything modern medicine has available. But, I've also added mind healing with meditation, etc. It has helped me deal with the illness, de-stress and, I hope, have a successful recovery.
Your nephew is very fortunate to have you. I'm certain anything you can do to encourage him to love himself, value himself and see himself as worthy and deserving of love just as he is, will add immensely to his recovery.
I hope and pray (yes, pray!) that he will recover fully.